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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Friday our church had a lock-in for the youth(kids stay up all night locked in the church), my 12 y/o son was excited to go.
They all loaded up in a church van and went to Wendy's to eat. They left him there. The police call us to come pick him up.

He was upset, and came home instead of going back to the lock-in.

I'm still pissed-nothing happened, but still, how hard is it to count heads when you have other folks' kids?


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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You must be pissed. What did the leaders of the lock in say?


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Posts: 37413 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your poor son. Of course he was upset!

You have EVERY right to be livid and demand answers.


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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

they say it hasn't happened in the 15 yrs they've been doing it.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But now it has. What are they doing to make sure it doesn't happen again.

I'm just heartsick thinking about your son when he realized they left without him.


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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is sorta odd(quiet, kinda big), not very many friends, his sister the social butterfly spent the nite somewhere 3 different times during spring break, he had been looking forward to this as his chance to get out a little.
I think his feelings were really hurt.


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Posts: 5397 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ds)))) Ugh. I'm so VERY sorry.


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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, my heart breaks for you both. "Lame" doesn't come close.

(((64fleet and DS)))


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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

they say it hasn't happened in the 15 yrs they've been doing it.

Well, bully for them. But the fact of the matter is that it did happen and it is inexcusable. I would be demanding a hell of a lot more than "It's never happened before." That's a crap answer.

I don't blame you for being pissed.

I'm so sorry for your son. That really sucks.


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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have they reached out to him, or are they just trying to cover themselves?


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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

not a word to him, just covering their asses.

Damn I really hate people sometimes.


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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not a Christian or a church goer... But had this been my son I probably would've lost my religion yelling at them and that bullshit answer!

Sorry that happened to him and to you!


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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They obviously don't understand the meaning of 'lock in'. You don't go OUT. What idiots.

Your poor DS


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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lordy

I used to work with a youth group, and any leader worth their salt knows that you pay MORE attention to the awkward kids so they feel included, not LESS.


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first rule of going on a trip like this (or even when a large number of kids are involved) is to do a head count before getting off of the bus/van, after you're at a location, and before you leave the location to ensure everyone is accounted for.

[This message edited by Mama_of_3_Kids at 9:54 PM, March 25th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agree with Mama here. I've worked with kids since I was 20. It is in my blood to do a head count now. I count other peoples kids. I'm not even kidding. We stand at the bus stop and if I only have one or two with me my eyes will not stop scanning.
I do understand that things can happen and be a mistake. What concerns me is how long he must have gone unnoticed to have the police be the ones that called you and that they haven't apologized to him. The boy needs a heartfelt apology



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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have 4 kids and when they were growing up there was always an extra kid or dozen along. I counted heads every few minutes.

They owe him a letter of apology signed by all the kids and all the counselors... and adults in charge.

I cannot imagine how your son must've felt....

Hugs for you mama... I would be on the warpath with my pastor about it.

Good luck,

K


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Posts: 5282 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dont care if they are covering their asses or not, Your son deserves an apology like, yesterday.

I would keep going up the ladder until you go one. This is horrible, what if something DID happen to your son since they just left him behind.

Unacceptable....Make them responsible for their actions


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Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2012
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Time to get in touch with your "Papa Bear".

At the least your Pastor needs to apologize directly to your son and the adult chaparones need to be severly talked to.

The bottom line is they didn't think enough of your son to be aware of him.

Wrong on soooo many levels.

k9


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Posts: 6582 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They need to read the Parable of the Lost Lamb again...


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