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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They left your 12-year-old behind??

What did the police say to you when you picked him up? Did they give the church a call?

I shudder to think what could have happened to him, never mind his hurt feelings...

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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously, all it takes is a clipboard, a name roster and a pen. Someone stands at the bus door and checks off the name as the child gets on the bus.

They are incompetent and shouldn't have programs like this if they can't take full responsibility for each child.

The answer they gave was total crap!

My son is 9 and like your son, quiet, not many friends. He would have been broken hearted and the church would NOT want to see me coming. Period!

(((HUGS))) to you and your son.

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
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Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

fWW won't let me go down there, prolly a good idea as I don't need any charges. I get relly mad when it comes to my kids.

I honestly cannot believe it-all it takes is a head count.

time wounds all heels

Posts: 5397 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of you needs to be your son's advocate. He needs to know one of you has his back.

If FWW isn't letting you go to the Church and take care of this, what is she doing?

Leaving a kid behind, especially one who is quiet and not many friends is serious. Like I said before.....they've basically told your son he doesn't matter.


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WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
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Posts: 6579 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto to what K9 said.

Your son needs to know that this issue will be resolved.

He is a quiet kid, and he must be devastated feeling forgotten.

I'd calm myself down and pay a visit to the person in charge. Not only do they owe you an explanation (although there is no excuse), they need to apologize to your son and ensure that he is included in future activities. Something to make him feel special.

Posts: 7590 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, March 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I was just watching the Duggers and their 19 kids on TV... and he talked about how he was constantly doing head counts... (they were in China)...

If he can do that, in China, with 20+ people your church can do the same.

Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Posts: 24594 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, March 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definately the church needs to apoligize to your ds! There are so many ways to keep track when you are a leader and it's so important that you are constantly vigilant. I run the nursery on weds nights and even though it would be really hard for the little ones to get out the door, I'm still constantly doing a head count. They need to seriously think about the mature way to handle it.

Me,BS 33
SA fWH (masame5) 35
Married 13 yrs, 7 kids
D-day 10/9/12 (caught him through fb chat) D-day #2 11/19/12 thru 11/21/12 (found out about all the rest of the A's.)
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