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User Topic: A Healthy You! Weight Support Group
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woo Hoo to all you losers!

Everyone stay strong!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exercise was inconsistent this week, but I'm still down 2.6 lbs. Last night I pulled my hair back and went to run a bath for my kids. I caught a glimpse of my face in the mirror and can really tell (for the first time) that I'm looking thinner.

Posts: 1084 | Registered: Jan 2013
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've stayed under calories all week and am up almost 2 pounds! I know this isn't "real" weight, but FML this isn't helping my motivation.

Congrats to all who are staying the course.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 337 | Registered: Sep 2013
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you. A few weeks ago, I stayed under calories all week and exercised at least 30 mins (cardio and resistance) for 5/7 days and my weight stayed exactly the same. This whole journey is ridiculously emotional for me and it is so easy to feel defeated. I could spill a bunch of encouragement, but really, I just wanted you to know I hear you and you're not alone.

Posts: 1084 | Registered: Jan 2013
BrooklynLove
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 210 as of this morning and I'm just 11lbs away from being under 200lbs . I want to be between 150-160lbs and wear a size 8. I can see the excess skin and think I may need a tummy tuck . Wishing everyone luck and keep on losing guys...


Will never be naive again...

BW - Me (28)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (33)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (3) and DD (5 months)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on


Posts: 110 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: USA
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recruited a workout buddy at work. We actually have a very nice fitness center on location that we can use for free and I have yet to take advantage of it. But I overheard one of the other women talking about needing to work out, so I jumped into the conversation. We'll be working out after work starting on Monday. or is it ?

[This message edited by inconnu at 12:22 PM, April 5th (Saturday)]


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12151 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
ChinaCat
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If anyone lives in the St Louis area on the IL side. Let me know. I would love to have a gym buddy!


"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!

Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tomorrow is weigh day! Hoping it's not way too much day! I have not cheated once since March 1st. When I reach the next goal I set for myself, I am going to reward myself with a manicure. Haven't had one in about 4 years.

Congrats to everyone who is losing and/or working out!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am back to walking again. I think I was just in a funk plus the book I was listening to was not my favorite by this author (Die Trying by Lee Child -- way too much descriptions about driving in the snow and ice )

I have only lost about 3 lbs since I started walking, but that is still 3 lbs. And I can feel my weight "shifting" if anyone knows what I mean. If I was really serious about losing weight then I would quit drinking. I prefer the buzz to being thin Maybe I should move to Colorado


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17638 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
Adeahan
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey guys, i just wanted to come on here and show my support, i have battled with weight all of my life (and probably always will) i was always bigger, played football but after highschool i stopped, living the college life, eating what i wanted, drinking a lot, i got to the point after i met my wife...well i just say i stopped weighing myself when i hit 400lbs, i was probably around 420 or so at my peak. Anyways in the last 7 or so years i have lost 180lbs i am down to 240, i didnt do anything crazy, no crazy diets, i just cut out all sugar, as much as could and just exorcised more then i ate. I thought i was going to be huge forever, i keep setting new goals, just start at baby steps dont overwhelm yourself, you guys are all awesome people and im glad to have found this place


Me 33, H 31,D-Day 03/30/14, Together 12 years, married 2, 3 kids, 3 dogs, Working on R
"nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"

Posts: 138 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Ontario, Canada
BrooklynLove
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just got back from purchasing a size 8 jeans that are acid wash. They don't fit but I'm gonna look at them and try them on everyday until I can wear them. They were $20 @ PrettyGirl. I am doing Atkins and going to the gym. I think I want to start doing Insanity or T25.

Adeahan - That is great and wishing all the best.


Will never be naive again...

BW - Me (28)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (33)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (3) and DD (5 months)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on


Posts: 110 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: USA
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sure my weigh in tomorrow will be fine, but I need some encouragement. I need to hear the positive benefits of losing weight. I'm comfortable with how I look and I don't have any current adverse health effects from being obese. My dr and I were worried about long-term effects and started attacking my weight from a pro-active standpoint. The foods I eat now cost more and I enjoy them less. Exercise helping to tone the muscle I have, but my energy levels are still low and I'm still not sleeping well - plus my body hurts. And, to top it off, my insurance is refusing to pay for my dr visits because obesity is a specifically excluded diagnosis. Basically, they told me it I had diabetes, they'd cover everything but because I'm trying to prevent it the cost is mine to bear. So, here's what I'm looking at - increased food costs, less satisfaction, insecure of the new shape I already have (it doesn't feel like my body), increased soreness and pain levels and increased dr bills. Why am I even bothering? Where are the positives?

Posts: 1084 | Registered: Jan 2013
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JM and I weighed in yesterday. He has lost 35+ and I have lost almost 25.

The clinic asked us if we'd let them take our picture and post on the bulletin board and their facebook page as a tribute for our combined weight loss and encouragement to others.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2747 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

woot! that's fantastic, hfssc!

so, my workout buddy recruited another co-worker to come work out with us. the new buddy is only available after work on Mon & Wed because she's doing boot camp workouts on Tues & Thurs, but she's going to share what she does there with me.

oh, and I worked out every day this week so far, and have plans to work out with buddy#1 tomorrow after work.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12151 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
jadedheart
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Member # 32046
Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

have lost 20lbs since March 1st!! There is a long road ahead because I got a whole bunch more to go, but you can't erase all those years of fat ass in a couple months.

Congrats to everybody! Eating healthy and getting up off my backside has made me feel good about myself again. It is great to come here and read the comments both good and "bad". Keeps me on track!

Everyone have a good week!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I worked out 4 days after work last week, and I'm down 2 lbs! Since it's only been one week of exercise, I would have been happy to just stop the upward creep, but going down is even better. If I keep this up, then hopefully my pants will start fitting like they're supposed to again.

Now that I know what kind of machines & equipment are available at the fitness center at work, I can come up with a better routine.

Goals for this week:
workout 4 days - 2 focusing on cardio/2 on strength training


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12151 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Musiclovingmom, if you aren't enjoying your new diet, I say rethink it. You're never going to see a permanent change staying with something you hate! And it sounds like you're in a place where just going slow and steady is fine.

I just read 'Mindless Eating' by Brian Wansink and really recommend it. Basically about cutting back on portions, snacking, thoughtless choices we make that slowly add on the pounds but can be reversed without triggering a feeling of deprivation.

I have had a lot of weight swings in my life and diets really don't work for me because I love food, I have a big appetite and restrictions will only drive me to overdo it when I snap! But slow minor changes don't bother me.

If the effort isn't making you happy, I say why punish yourself? That are other more gradual tactics. Maybe try a different method of exercise too if you're not feeling energetic and having pain. Walking or swimming or yoga maybe? It shouldn't drain you of your will to live to try and lose weight!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4190 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Nora. I do enjoy a lot of what I can eat. I just really miss some of my regular foods that are now on the 'eat these very sparingly' list. Mashed potatoes and gravy and fluffy, chewy home made breads being at the top of that list. My dr and I have restricted these (and sugar, white rice and any corn products), because of a concern about adult onset diabetes. Besides my weight, I have a strong family history that adds extra concern. I'd rather eat dirt than be diabetic. Sometimes it is just hard to stay motivated to prevent a maybe - especially when it seems like no one is with me (family complaining about meals - my kids are 1,2, and 6, insurance telling its out of pocket until I'm actually diabetic). I'm a bit better this week for a couple of reasons. Top of that is that my doctor has filed an appeal with my insurance company. Even if it doesn't make a bit of difference in their decision to deny my coverage, it makes me feel like someone is fighting with me on this - someone besides me sees the value in what I'm doing. Also, I found a recipe for fabulously fluffy, chewy dinner rolls that are 100% whole wheat.
I still don't recognize my body. I haven't been this weight since I graduated high school - 15 years, 2 marriages and 3 kids ago. I'm only 15lbs heavier than I was when I was 14, but still 40lbs from being inside the healthy weight range (and corresponding BMI) for my height. I'll keep plugging along.

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, April 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

musiclovingmom, I'm glad you have someone fighting for you on the coverage front!

Would it be okay for you to have mashed cauliflower? Surprisingly tasty... I'm sure with some experimenting you'll find substitutes for the food you miss, the whole wheat rolls sound great--and so does your progress!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can have cauliflower. I don't like cauliflower. That being said, I'd likely starve if I didn't make myself try other things. I've done cauliflower a couple of times - pizza crust with cheese and garlic, roasted with chicken, puréed super fine and used to create the effect of a thick, creamy soup base (which I would usually use a bunch of flour for). I have cauliflower mash on the menu for this week and I'm hoping it is a hit for both me and the kids.

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