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User Topic: Is he off his rocker? Signs I am recovering!
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, March 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The SA-NPD-EX-Idiot calls today and asks if I want to join him and our DD's for Easter dinner.
WTF???
He thinks that him and I are going to sit down at a table and enjoy a nice ham dinner?

I politely told him that I appreciate the offer but I would not be able to attend.

He proceeds to tell me that he invited me to come over for Easter because it "was the right thing to do".

I was puzzled for a few seconds about his motive then it came to me....He wants everyone to think he is a good guy! He invited his ex-wife for Easter because he didn't want her to be alone.

In reality I will have a lovely breakfast including candy with my girls. They will be gone for the afternoon so I can work on cleaning my new house. I will eat peeps and not have to cook dinner for them.

This looks pretty good to me!
This feels like recovery.


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1462 | Registered: Mar 2004
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, March 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for you!!!

And yay for peeps!!


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1510 | Registered: Aug 2010
gma56
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, March 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This looks pretty good to me!
This feels like recovery.


I don't think you can ask any more from yourself than that statement.

Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20275 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, March 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great attitude and fantastic response!

Seems to me the right thing to do would have been to not cheat on your spouse, but what do I know. It's a little late to worry about that now!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3097 | Registered: Dec 2011
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, March 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The answer is yes, he is off his rocker, but you knew that.

Congrats on the house! It's going to be a beautiful day tomorrow, perfect for opening all of the windows and filling your new house with fresh air. Enjoy!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2490 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, March 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j:

SA-NPD-EX-Idiot

Can be anagrammed to Spandex Idiot. Just thought I'd share!

End t/j


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, March 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It also LOOKS like recovery too!

Congrats


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2361 | Registered: Jan 2010
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, March 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spandex Idiot
*snort!*

I'm LOVING your recovery, rising!


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22565 | Registered: Aug 2011
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, March 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spandex idiot!


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1462 | Registered: Mar 2004
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, March 31st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

P.S.
As the girls prepared to head to their Dad's for Easter dinner the oldest asks "Did Dad really invite you dinner?"
I told her that he had and I thanked him, but I thought it might be awkward. There was a group daughter rolling of eyes.

I asked what they thought. "Oh yeah Mom that would be weird!".

So...my hunch was right. He wanted to look like the good guy.

Backfire!
It pays to say as little as possible.
Hard lesson to learn but so valuable.


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1462 | Registered: Mar 2004
irrelevancy
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's still all about him, isn't it.


The greatest gift a father can give his children is to love (or at the very least, respect) their mother....

That didn't happen.... we're divorced as a result.


Posts: 49 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: healing land
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 6th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...spandex idiot...

Love how you handled the 'kind' request but I really love the mental image of a bunch of girls simultaneously rolling their eyes.


ish kabibble

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