I've never been mistreated in any way by anyone and my parents are great. They get irritated by me too! They're just disappointed in me but give my H a hard time which really doesn't help.
It's all a bit of a war zone right now but it has to improve.
Things haven't got out of control for a little while now and my husband is definitely trying his best with me. He really isn't keen on me going to counselling without him but he would never stop me.
When I was a kid counselling didn't work. It was funny, well not funny but... What happened was, I went to counselling, I didn't speak... At all, not a word! That led to them sending me to a psychologist who was like 'she isn't ill, she was just not talking'- i could talk to that guy because he wasn't talking about why I was at counselling in the first place! Whereas I knew where the counsellor was heading and In my teenage head I was like 'seriously, do you know how much effort it has taken to swallow this, I'm not about to chuck it up for you'.
It's so nice learning positive outcomes. I don't think I'll be ready for anger for a while though. It still seems very negative to me even though I 'know' it's healthy and as you say, human.