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SoVerySadNow posted 5/2/2013 07:41 AM

Stay strong. The relationship is toxic.

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 07:58 AM

Btw I accidentally face timed him the night before his bday. I hung up immediately. Not even an entire ring. He face timed me back and I didn't answer. I was reading old texts and found some things I even forgot about. How I was warning him that I was disappearing and did he have anything else he wanted to say before I'm gone forever. More texts about him being unreasonable and obnoxious . I needed the ammo. The call FaceTime button is right where your would scroll up on texts. This is what he's referring to when he says "fake facetime"

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 07:58 AM

Btw I accidentally face timed him the night before his bday. I hung up immediately. Not even an entire ring. He face timed me back and I didn't answer. I was reading old texts and found some things I even forgot about. How I was warning him that I was disappearing and did he have anything else he wanted to say before I'm gone forever. More texts about him being unreasonable and obnoxious . I needed the ammo. The call FaceTime button is right where your would scroll up on texts. This is what he's referring to when he says "fake facetime"

nowiknow23 posted 5/2/2013 08:10 AM

Good morning, honey.

I have an assignment for you. And you're going to do it - no arguing, ok?

Think of one thing you can do for yourself today that is completely self-focused. One thing. It doesn't have to be big, it just has to be about your care and feeding.

Give it some thought. Think of something you will enjoy. Something that will help fill your tank.

Get a massage?
Spend an hour wandering through your favorite book store?
Take a walk through a beautiful neighborhood?
Call a friend and meet for lunch?
Rent a movie and laugh your ass off?
Coffee and a cookie in the park?

Think on it. Do it. And then report back.

Dr. NIK's orders.

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 09:00 AM

Ugh! - Ty for checking on me. I just saw your post today. I am trying to hang in there as best I can.

Still seeing my IC weekly. Went to charleston this weekend with a girlfriend for a getaway and it was a shitshow. Her brothers bday was that weekend and his friends were unbelievable. They were very immature and drinking at all hours of the day and getting kicked out of bars. To give you all an idea , we met them for brunch at noon on Sunday and they had already been kicked out of a bar/restaurant. Everywhere we went I saw a look of uneasiness in the other patrons. It was so obvious how rowdy this crowd was. I was so embarrassed and found excuses to leave. One night I left a club bc I was triggering from a song and needed to go out for a good cry. My "friend" laid in to me about leaving . she was so angry with me some awful things came out of her mouth.Saying he still has power over me and all my friends talk about me.. I got angry at her and told her I was allowed to grieve the end of my relationship Amd just bc im cryimg doesnt mean he has "power" over me She said some awful things to me and she lost my friendship. I will only keep her at arms length now. She has issues and in the 8 years ive known her has never had a man so relationship advice from her is laughable. I won't get into all the details but the wknd was pretty bad and we came home early. (After they got kicked out of yet another bar she finally had it herself)

Soverysad - thank you. I am doing the best I can with regards to strength.

Stillgoing- haha this is the stuff I need to hear. So thank you also. Entitled is his middle name. I had a feeling the mean stuff would come after the bday. Hopefully that's the end of it

Dr nik- thank you for words of encouragment. unfortunately work is insane and ill be working until at least 7 my time, but I will do something nice for myself after . Maybe ill work out, spray tan and mani pedi. I just bought a book on amazon and I can't wait to get it. It's called "words of encouragement for the emotionally abused woman" . Good reviews, I hope it brings more peace in my life.

Guys what do you think about him saying that it is "fitting"? I don't get that.

[This message edited by suspicious247 at 9:03 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)]

gonnabe2016 posted 5/2/2013 09:08 AM

Guys what do you think about him saying that it is "fitting"? I don't get that.

It was either a dismissive insult to you or a *pity party* for him. An opening for you to *feel bad* or guilty and to feel compelled to contact him and make him feel better.

Can you delete him from your FaceTime so there are no more 'oopsies'?

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 09:14 AM

I've only facetimed once before and have no idea how to delete it. I never use it and am completely uninformed about it.

It sounds crazy but reading his mean text messages makes my resolve stronger so I've been doing it more lately (we communicated a lot thru text) . But I'd love to get rid of that button

[This message edited by suspicious247 at 9:15 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)]

7yrsflushed posted 5/2/2013 09:34 AM

Not sure which iphone you have but you can disable facetime by going into settings, clicking on facetime and then moving the toggle to off. Hope that helps.

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 09:36 AM

And he just emailed me

Subject - thank you

Body - for being thoughtful

(To my work email from his personal)

[This message edited by suspicious247 at 9:38 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)]

gonnabe2016 posted 5/2/2013 09:41 AM

Just expect to continue to *hear* from him.

I just, as in right now, received an email w/ attachment from Sultan.

Subject: Beautiful
Body: A picture that was taken when we renewed our vows 2 months after Dday.

He obviously has no idea how much I despise being reminded of that renewal considering the fact that it was based on his complete lies.

Disordered thinking, suspi. Ugh.

DeadMumWalking posted 5/2/2013 09:54 AM

And he just emailed me

Subject - thank you

Body - for being thoughtful

WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!!!!

(To my work email from his personal)

Please blacklist this douchebag so that his fucked up messages go straight into trash.

The less you see him working his bullshit the better off you will be.

((((suspicious))))

StillGoing posted 5/2/2013 11:13 AM

Guys what do you think about him saying that it is "fitting"? I don't get that.

He's being a manipulative cockjab. He's implying that you're cruel, mean and everything HE never said - even though he did and you have it saved - but OTHER people did is true and he's only just now being forced to see it by your HORRIBLE and SELFISH behavior by not bowing your head like a good little woman and just having the courtesy to wish him a happy fucking birthday. Really, just a happy birthday, because you're the only one he really was looking forward to hearing from. Isn't the [dollar value he quoted] he spent an obvious sign of how much he values you? You could at least do the same and how much does it cost to say happy birthday? GOD you're SO SELFISH.

You will soon be bombarded with flowers and gifts.

He is a snub nosed shit rifle set to spray and he's hosing your life with his shit. Block him.

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 11:16 AM

Oh I forgot - I bought him a subscription for 6 months. They are gift boxes filled with men's sample skin and lifestyle products (socks, speakers, belts - it's nice stuff). I ordered it in March bc I had to wait a few months for mine (the female version). Since I bought it, I get an email every month when he gets his box. and he got his giftbox from me on his birthday!!! He actually got a gift from me - on his bday - albeit I didn't buy it recently.

So I am sooooo thoughtless that I dont wish him a happy bday and soooo thoughtless he got absolutely nothing from me on his bday. WTF Ever!!!! I want to yell that to him but I wont . I will just yell it here.

And also to him - yes I do think I should give therapy a chance and I am and I have been!! You dont care enough about this relationship to get help yourself because you are fucking perfect and you are totally innocent of any wrongdoing. You ruined my spirit you piece of shit!!!!

OK end vent

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 11:18 AM

LOL I needed that

You will soon be bombarded with flowers and gifts.

he doesn't know my home or work address. POS never asked for it when I moved - yay for me

Mousse242 posted 5/2/2013 14:51 PM

Cancel the subscription. Simple.

brokenblackbird posted 5/2/2013 15:27 PM

Stop torturing yourself. If you don't want contact block his email address/es and block his phone number/s.

If he doesn't know your work address or your home address, he can't reach you. No more contact.

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 15:28 PM

It's prepaid or I would have believe me

[This message edited by suspicious247 at 3:29 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)]

brokenblackbird posted 5/2/2013 17:43 PM

Your work email should be capable of having his emails blacklisted.

What service do you have that has an iphone on a prepaid plan? There are apps to block numbers/texts.

suspicious247 posted 5/2/2013 17:58 PM

No the gift subscription to him is the prepaid thing. My phone is not prepaid and I have since deactivated FaceTime

I need to figure out the work email blocking part. It's more complicated than you might think. If I explained why it would be revealing too much personal info.

I just want to say thanks again for all the posts and the pms (you know who you are). Everyone has been so helpful, even the meaner posts have helped and I really can't thank this place enough

brokenblackbird posted 5/2/2013 20:44 PM

Oh. I guess I misread it. I thought your phone was prepaid. Oops.

Maybe you could change the address of the gift subscription to your own?

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