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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, April 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mr. Aubrie picked the towel up, put it back in my hand, and with his hand over mine, pressed it back against the window pane

This is what I saw when I met you two.

This is what I read when I've read some of what you've written.

This is the type of relationship I hope to someday be a part of.

(Sorry to t/j into Wayward)


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
sosorry5454rl
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, April 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post


WW(me) 41
BH 50 (5454real)
Married 10 years
Currently in R and plan to stay there and succeed
DD 21, DS 19, SS 22, DS 8, DGS 2

Posts: 61 | Registered: Nov 2012
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously, it's so nice you guys can work together through this

He and I are both shocked that we can work together thru this. I never thought we would ever be able to work thru infidelity. I thought this would be the one thing we would never recover from. In all honesty, it's the one thing we are kicking butt at.

The first time he said, "I'm sorry, I was wrong" time stood still for me.

The first time we both learned to apologize correctly was pretty life changing. There's a huge difference between a passive-aggressive, "Well soooo-RRY!" and a genuine, humble, "I'm so sorry." Just three simple words and humility behind them make an enormous impact.

This is what I saw when I met you two.

Thanks gahurts. You made us both cry.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6309 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
KBeguile
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can anyone here honestly say they truly believed what they were doing was not wrong? Forget reasons, justifications, excuses, whatever, can any one of us claim that they didn't know their choices to cheat were wrong and would not end well if were known to their spouse?

If the answer to that is no, I knew it was wrong then doesn't the whole brain thing become a bit of a straw man?

I suppose I did set up the brain to be the Straw Man here.

I will argue, though, that depression doesn't make someone who is Major Depressive see things "more realistically." I never feel like re-living all of my past failures and heightening all of my own flaws until they're bigger than I am does anything "realistic" for me, except make me feel like $#!+ and grump at everyone in my life.


Me: fWS 32
Her: BS 35 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 4yo
M: 7 years
DDays: 2012/11/14, 2013/02/05, 2013/03/09
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"Everything that happens now is happening 'now.'"
"What happened to 'then'?"
"We passed 'then.'"

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