I just don't want him to pin this on me saying I never responded or something
Why does this matter?
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
Have you spoken with your coworker at all about this?
I had a somewhat similar situation. I had been at my job for about 5 months when a coworker (more senior than me, but not my boss) wanted to introduce me to her daughter's volleyball coach. She gave him my e-mail address, we pen-palled a bit, and things never happened. Seemed like a nice enough guy, but I need someone with more initiative!
I just told her that I had suggested meeting after a few e-mails; he didn't appear interested and just appeared to want to e-mail. I'm not even sure who poofed on whom, but it's been months since we've e-mailed (I think our last conversation was about Halloween.) She just laughed, said something like "too bad -- he's missing out!" and our relationship is fine.
I think you might be worrying too much about what she thinks. Not that you need to be spilling your love life to her, but I'd probably mention something like "thanks for the introduction, but it didn't work out!"
I'd probably say, "Wow, I'm impressed you find time to email with how busy you are! I'm not really looking for a pen pal, but you seem like a great guy. If you'd ever like to get a drink, please feel free to give me a call." and then go quiet unless he asks you out.
I agree with this.
That way it's more or less saying I'm done emailing - 'shit or get off the pot'.
If after sending that email he stills sporadiacally sends emails, I'd ignore them.
Hopefully your crush won't show up with a date!!
[This message edited by GrievingMommy at 7:07 PM, April 13th (Saturday)]
Hope my dry spell ends soon! Need a real prospect