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User Topic: Awful, awful morning (Warning. Very disturbing, graphic)
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Look at it this way; you may have saved the second victims life (or at very least her limbs) because of your knowledge. A person without your training might have tried to pull her from the wreck. You were there for a reason.

Bless you for stopping and assiting.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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LoveActually
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for you that you had to see that. I was the first on scene at a one person accident about six years ago--the man was thrown from the car and died right in front of me--I will never forgot it--it took me weeks to get back to normal--hugs to you and prayers for the lost and injured.


BS (Me)
WS (Him)
D-Day 5/29/09
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs

Posts: 757 | Registered: Jan 2011
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for being the kind of person who stops to help with that kind of horrible shit. It has to be brutal to see that.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7363 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HFSSC)))

You did the right thing and you did what you could; of course it is going to be traumatizing. Does your hospital have free counseling that you could use? Every hospital I have worked in has had some type of program where we could receive a certain number of sessions for free every year. This may be a time for you to use it, if they have something like that.


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I work in a SNF. I did talk to our social workers this morning...one of them actually was a paramedic before she went into social work. She helped me a lot.

Thank you all for the hugs and prayers.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2659 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HFSSC)))

(((victim's family)))


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
"Not my monkeys. Not my circus." ~Polish proverb (<~~~ as a codependent person, this comes in handy sometimes!)

Posts: 3882 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry that you had to see that, but I'm glad that lady had you there to comfort her.

(((HFSSC)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HFSSC)))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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NotDefeatedYet
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It will probably stay with you, but be proud of yourself for not falling apart. A lot of people do. I was a police accident investigator for years. I can close my eyes and still see the face of the first body I pulled out of a car. I will never forget it, and that was almost 20 years ago. All the ones after that sort of run together.


"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."

Posts: 767 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HFSSC)))


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HFSsC))) prayers to you, the victims, families and all those who stopped to help.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You poor thing. How awful.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just saw a news report. It was a 52 year old man who ran off the road, over corrected and then hit the minivan head on.

I finally cried this afternoon when I saw JM for the first time and he hugged me.

Gonna go take a long, hot bath.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2659 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I finally cried this afternoon when I saw JM for the first time and he hugged me.
'Cause he is your soft place to land, and that is so very wonderful. A positive for a very sad day.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9404 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HFSSC)))

(((Victims & their loved ones)))


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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Hearthache again
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How horrible and rewarding at the same time. You were there for the right person at the right time. Prayers are with you.


Me-BS(32)
Him-WS(35)
Married-12 years together 13
Kids 4: 15, 12, 8, and 3
DDay#1 9-26-2008 Dday#2 4-26-2010
We have R!!! But I still hate the number 26!

This too shall pass
I edit a lot because that stupid box is so small!


Posts: 871 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Michigan
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If this *didn't* bother you, I would be concerned. You are human and you are a nurse; it is in your blood to save a life and when you're not able to, it hits you very hard (speaking from experience here).

More hugs...(((HFSSC)))


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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