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User Topic: What Would You Do? Storage Question
Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A woman I used to be friends with was moving to CA about 18 months ago. She had a bed that she said she couldn't sell because she wouldn't get her money back, but, did anyone want to use the bed until she could get it. I wanted a 4 poster bed, so, I said I would take it. Well, it overwhelmed our room, so we didn't use it, just kept it in the garage. Then we went from a king size bed to a full size, so, now it doesn't work at all.

I emailed her in November and in January about what she wanted me to do, because we can't keep storing it. She just ignores the e-mails.

So, I can drop it off at her parents house unannounced, since she won't give me any info (I did offer to take it over there in one of the e-mails.) I can sell it in a garage sale, but, she will be pissed because I'm not even going to attempt to get the $3000 she claims she wants out of it. Or, I can get a storage unit for a month and send her the keys.

I'm leaning towards the storage unit idea. I will tell her where, give her the keys, etc. But, it isn't mine, I don't want it. So, she has the opportunity to do something about it, without using my garage as free storage.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would NOT take on the responsibility of storing it.

I would send her a certified letter telling her she has X days to claim her bed or same will be sold for storage.

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Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you going to pay for the storage unit for her? Have you tried to call her? Are you sure she has read the emails (my SIL is always emailing me at an address I don't use anymore)?

I'd probably drop it off at her parents' house.


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Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^This.

Just because you emailed her doesn't mean she received the emails and that could come back to bite you if you do something with her bed.


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Posts: 13650 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would do the certified letter so you have proof she received it.

I would give her so many days to make arrangments to pick it up or you will dispose of it.

I wouldn't even mention selling it in the letter because then you get into the issue of her not agreeing with the sum you get, etc.

Has she been in contact with you at all since she moved???


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Posts: 2015 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't involve her parents. Too much kicking the hornets nest IMO. They're not involved in this.


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Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I say you send the certified letter....

And tell her she either arranges for it's immediate removal from your premises or consider it forfeited and you will consider it yours to do with as you wish.

ie: Sell it for $ and keep the money.


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think you can really do anything without speaking to her. She was looking for a home for her bed, a place for safe keeping until she could use it herself - you raised your hand - now you have changed your mind. And that's all well and good, but she needs to be *allowed* time to figure out a Plan B.

Can you phone her? Text her? Or Certified Letter with signature so you can be 100% sure she receives your communication.

I get where you are coming from. We did this for friends that moved to Tanzania for 5 years. We took their desk to *keep* for them while they were gone. But we were on the other side of the equation, we USED that desk - when they came back it was mighty hard to forfeit it to them!


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Posts: 6035 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pick up the phone and call her.

If you haven't heard back from her it's possible she hasn't received the emails or something has happened to her.


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Posts: 4059 | Registered: Mar 2003 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have any interest in maintaining a relationship with her?


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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would send her a certified letter telling her she has X days to claim her bed or same will be sold for storage.

^^^THIS^^^^

Right on the spot.

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Posts: 676 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: southeast
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here is a link to the storage law that I could find.

http://www.in.gov/legislative/ic/code/title32/ar31/ch4.html

The problem is that there was no written agreement on how long you would have this bed.

If she doesnt answer that letter in 90 days, I believe then it becomes 'abandoned' and you can sell it after that.

but i am not a lawyer, so you may want to call someone.

IU School of Law on IUPUI campus as a clinic line that you can call and ask these kind of questions for free.


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