Topic: did you lose your weight because of D?
Member # 23989
| Posted: 6:28 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
In the couple of weeks right after D-day I lost at least 10 lbs or so. X had the nerve to comment that at least this had gotten me past my plateau. (I'm still surprised I didn't stab him in his sleep.)
After that, once we were fully in false R and then in-house S and then the whole drawn out D process, I ate and drank my stress. I drank A LOT during false R. Somewhere during the time he finally moved out, I started drinking a lot less but still eating a lot more. From D-day until about 2 months ago I ended up gaining about 80 lbs. Although, since the D had also granted me the loss of about 200 lbs of pure ASS, I still feel I netted out okay.
Anyway....when I finally realized that part of why I was eating so much was because X wouldn't have let me have this or wouldn't have wanted me to have that, I became aware that I was STILL letting him control portions of my life by trying to rebel against someone who no longer mattered.
I did a little research on my options and I started Medifast. I also started back at the gym and am trying to work myself back up to my pre D-day regimen. And in these past 2 months, I've lost 30 lbs and I'm started to feel healthier.
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Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
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Posts: 1658 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast
Member # 7767
| Posted: 9:49 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
When I am under difficult emotional stress, I tend to lose weight. Not only can I not seem to eat, but I also work my nerves out through activity. I lost so much weight during the D that many people were worried about me.
Now that I'm D and in a great healthy relationship, I've gained all the weight back plus 20 on top of that.
I would like to lose the 20lbs, but it is so much harder to take off after turning 50. Guess I'll just be fat and happy!
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
Posts: 7429 | Registered: Aug 2005
Member # 35619
| Posted: 9:59 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
Did I lose weight because of the D?
[This message edited by Brandon808 at 10:00 AM, April 4th, 2013 (Thursday)]
D final 8/2012
Posts: 2470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
Member # 37946
| Posted: 10:37 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
Lol, Brandon. That made me literally laugh out loud!
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Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
Member # 33539
| Posted: 11:03 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I was actually on Weight Watchers to lose weight when I suspected the A. I was only about 15lbs away from goal when DDay occured. My appetite plummeted and I lost 7 lbs the 1st week and then 2-3lbs every week after that. I had been plateauing before that and had to ramp up my exercise to 2x per day to lose weight. After DDay, I stopped exercising all together and weight started flying off. I had to stop exercising because I was worried that I would completely disappear. The only food I could stomach when I completely lost my appetite was chinese food. It took about 5 months for my appetite to return. By that time, I had managed to lose 3lbs past my goal weight. I have since gained back 10lbs and would like to lose 7 of them back, but I have maintained most of my weight loss (35lbs). People (except STBX) tell me that I look the best I have looked in years. His loss...
Posts: 495 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York
Member # 36144
| Posted: 11:32 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
X had the nerve to comment that at least this had gotten me past my plateau. (I'm still surprised I didn't stab him in his sleep.)
Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13
Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 30346
| Posted: 11:34 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm still losing. Not really sure why, I think I just don't eat crap any more. Right after D-day I dropped 15, but during R (false R) it went back on.
Then, when we S two years ago, I have now slowly lost about 20 pounds. I'm now as thin as I was before children. Another 10 would get me to pre-marriage, but I really don't want to be that thin.
Someone who hadn't seen me in two years commented how freaking thin I am now...I told her she just didn't remember me pre-WS.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 40, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 2 years, together 17
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Posts: 3110 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 38709
| Posted: 12:21 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
Lost 20 lbs of pure stress, another 12 due to excercise.
Me: BH – 38
Her: WW – 34
Married: 4 years, togther 8
D-Day #1 10/20/12
D-Day #2 12/23/12
D-Day #3 3/2/12
Posts: 63 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: ON, Canada
Member # 26741
| Posted: 12:40 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I lost 15 pounds the first two weeks, vomited everything I ate (not on purpose). Then lost another 20 pounds over the first year, still no appetite but started working out. I am within 5 pounds of where i want to be- I want to be in the 120s again and at 5'7 and a half, that's not bad. Size 6 or 7 jeans now! Only good thing about it.
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Posts: 1073 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
Member # 28376
| Posted: 3:02 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
Brandon, that's hysterical!
It sounds like we have a broad spectrum here. I usually overeat when stressed. Wish I was the kind that didn't eat. I did drink a lot also right after D-day. It wasn't pretty.
My poor kids didn't know what was going on. I drank when they were with their dad, but when they came back, their were bottles and bottles in the trash.
Either way, this crap takes its tool some way. I am happy to hear that lots of you are back on the healthy track.
Me: 43/WH (SA): 46
M: 23 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending
Posts: 1196 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 36726
| Posted: 3:15 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
25 pounds due to stress and I wasn't heavy to begin with so both my mothers (mine and my MIL) were worried. Just put 15 back on over last 3 months. But I'm okay with that. Try and maintian now.
BH me 45
WW her 37
2 kids (11, 7)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Posts: 391 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
Member # 33226
| Posted: 4:17 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
Lost weight immediately following dday, but it quickly tracked me down with the help of many, MANY of its friends.
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Posts: 19327 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-)
Member # 35983
| Posted: 4:46 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I lost plenty. Before my D, when the x moved out, and for a little while afterwards I lost over 100 pounds. Not because I stopped eating but because I ate what I wanted and when I wanted. I started having more fruit and veggies and stopped eating shrimp alfredo once a week. That was over a 2 year period and now that another year has passed it’s time for me to buy new pants again because what I have is to large. I'm happy to lose the weight . . . and her!
fBH - 45
Posts: 1463 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Missouri
Member # 28851
| Posted: 5:18 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I lost almost 40 lbs between the time my exH first said he wanted a divorce (2/14/10) through finding out his most recent affair was with my best friend and I filed divorce papers (9/2010).
I was CERTAIN I would gain it back when the stress died down, but it's never really stopped - it's been one thing after another, including being sued by him this fall for decree modification.
Oh well, at least I've stayed a size 4.
3 children ages 9, 10 and 13
Out of blue ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Re-married a wonderful man: 5/12/12
Posts: 260 | Registered: Jun 2010
Member # 37057
| Posted: 11:35 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I lost 20kls just never hungry get to 9pm at night and I'd eat 2 cheese n biscuits.
Posts: 287 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Uk
Member # 25624
| Posted: 11:40 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013|
Lost 100 so far
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Posts: 1598 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
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