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User Topic: Probably a stupid dancing question
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But if you could humor me a bit.

I am getting into line dancing. My DH and I are going every Wed. as a date night.

Last night was my second time and while i am excited that I got out there and danced, I have learned i have NO sense of beat and everything that i do is very choppy.

(this coming from an AVID dancer when i was small and played musical instruments up until i graduated high school)

So - are there ANY suggestions that would help me 'loosen up'?

Singers have vocal stretchs, musicians have their note runs they practice...

Other then stretches (which I do at home before we leave) Is there anything that I can do to help me get a little more flow in my steps?

I will say though - that once I learn the steps pretty well, that I seem to have a better flow, but still, I am very stiff - like I am moving with the wrong part of my body


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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am choppy when I am not comfortable with the move and have to think about it. It becomes like a reactor/after thought and I am moving bit by bit instead of letting it flow. Not knowing what dances that you are learning, there could be some technique need like how do you move in a step from position of your body in relationship to your feet or how you are suppose to step and other things. Pull the teacher to the side afterwards and ask them for tips


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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

listen to music before the lesson. the same kind of music you will be dancing to.

Just listening to it can help you "get into" the rhythm.

I love to dance, but have terrible sense of rhythm, and listening to my dancing music frequently and right before class or going out helps a LOT. I also try to tap my foot or hand to the beat when I'm listening and not doing something that requires my foot


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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Alcohol...lots of alcohol


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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Alcohol...lots of alcohol

The first time I went dancing, this was in full effect, DH drove home.

Last night i was by myself - so no drinking....

Not knowing what dances that you are learning, there could be some technique need like how do you move in a step from position of your body in relationship to your feet or how you are suppose to step and other things. Pull the teacher to the side afterwards and ask them for tips

All of them?

Last night we did "creepin" from Eric Church's song...then we did some like Big & Rich one where you hop all over the place with some grapevines and some stomping.

There was the Tush Push, the Wobble, Copperhead Road, and some sort of electric slide countryfied.

There were a few other's i tried out but dont know the names.

The turns get me every.single. time....I turn and then i get lost.


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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Elaine started dancing....she couldn't dance :) Very choppy!

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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1) Stop thinking about it.
2) Let your H lead....

We're taking lessons, too,

and the only problem we have

is that my W tries to lead. At the last class (our 4th), she finally decided to just look into my eyes and follow, and we had a lot more fun.

Oh, yeah, I guess the footwork is difficult for both of us, and the speed of the mambo is just too fast....

T/J - We met Moo at the St Louis area g2g last year, and he inspired me to arrange dance lessons for us. Thanks, Moo!

[This message edited by sisoon at 1:44 PM, April 5th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

practice, practice, practice!!! the more u do it, the easier it will become :-)


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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

how often are you praticing between lessons? how much are you praticing when you do?

are you using your head when turn?

online you can find youtube help videos, google the individual dances and see what turns up, then you can watch them at home without trying to watch and dance att the same time(very disorienting!)

is this familiar?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1L1oLFDXo0

if it is, and you can share what parts give you trouble, i may be able to help a little bit...


we seem to be crossing paths alot lately


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