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User Topic: What did you wish you should have done when you jfo?
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish I didnt tell him to pack his bags and get the f**k out, cause he did and the next day moved in with OW

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Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish I had been more confident in the person I KNOW I am

I wish I would not have allowed myself to feel "less" because HE chose to cheat

I wish I would have been able to control my action better and not turned into the emotional mess I did

I wish I would have told the AP's husband everything I knew as he deserves to know

I wish I would have sheltered our kids from the ugliness that their selfish father created

I wish I would have relied more on God than Chardonnay for strength

I wish I wouldn't have told people I told because in the end they couldn't help and many caused only more pain with their "words of wisdom"

I wish I would have been better at loving me and letting him figure his own self out

I wish that no person would ever hurt another person through infidelity.

I wish that if you are unhappy you have the courage to speak the truth. Lies and deceit hurt WAY more that the truth

I wish I could wake up from this nightmare

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. I wish I had trusted my gut and confronted him earlier.
2. And when I did confront him the first time, I wish I had pushed harder and browbeaten him into a confession. I didn't manage to do that until the third confrontation.
3. I wish I had been less ready to say I wanted to reconcile--made him work harder. (He's very remorseful and has turned himself around, but I wish I had made him sweat a little more in the beginning.)

Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA

Posts: 408 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
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