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User Topic: All is not well in la la land
nordicbabe
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STBX and OW are fighting. In front of my kids. She's acting like the child she is.

She also told my kids she's looking for love.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your poor kids. How are they handling being exposed to all this drama and idiocy?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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nordicbabe
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They're laughing and high fiving because they think the end is near. They can't stand her so were thrilled by this turn of events.

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What??? How is that possible??? I thought La La Land was the shiznitt??? But but but the unicorns? the rainbows? Idiots.

I'm sorry your kids had to witness the idiots fighting though.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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Happydays
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't tell stbx that you know. Get the pop corn ready.

Eta: iPad typos.

[This message edited by Happydays at 12:56 PM, April 7th (Sunday)]


BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

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TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry your kids are being exposed to their childish actions. That is the bad thing about the WS/OW relationships. They discover the grass is not greener on the other side after all, but then they turn around and expose the children to their messed up world. It is just unbelievable how people that cheat and lie think it will be wonderful with another cheater. (((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
nordicbabe
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I nearly texted him because he sent the kids home early but then didn't because I was actually happy to have them back early.

She's in some sort of real snit. Perhaps she's realised that a middle aged guy with two teenaged kids isn't all that much fun for a young lady in her twenties. He has them nearly 50% of the time and it would appear she's seeing that it's not quite like baby sitting.

And too funny that she said she's looking for love. Said it to teh kids right in front of STBX.

I truly hope it implodes so I don't have to see the dumb bitch at endless family events for the rest of my life. And if it implodes I hope it's SPECTACULAR.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And if it implodes I hope it's SPECTACULAR.


Sorry the kids have to see it though.
Get a seat ready on the couch for me, I like butter on my popcorn please


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nordicbabe
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The thing is the kids are over teh moon about this. They were bursting with happiness when they fell through the door because they don't want her around and are so happy that things are not great over in la la land.

They'll be fine. Every time something stupid happens I just use it as a learning tool in how to conduct oneself in different areas of life and different situations. They'll be fine, I think. STBX? Probably not so much.

I give it another year, tops...although I hope it ends much sooner so she's gone and I can have some peace.


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permanentpain
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another year? I think you're being too generous. Remember, she's looking for luvvvvv.... The idiot, LOL! Don't be surprised if she turns around and cheats on your ex. Gotta love karma!


Me: 32 y/o, student and mom of two of the best kids in the world
Him: 33 y/o scumbag
Divorcing
Feels good to start laughing and feeling better again...

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Colour me *shocked*!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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nordicbabe
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But...but...but...they're madly in love! They HAD to be together! This is just a mere bump in the road, I'm sure. Hell, she just sold her flat a few weeks ago and moved in with STBX (they didn't bother to tell the kids this was going to happen) so I'm sure they'll stick it out for awhile.

They wouldn't want to ahve to admit to the world that it really wasn't schmoopie boopie soul mate time, right?

But ahh....so sweet to see the cracks appearing, especially since during teh first few months after dday STBX kept telling the kids that I argued too much (ya thnk?) and that he and OW NEVER argued, they discussed.

And now she's pulling drama queen snits. And I can figure out why--most likely he pulled some passive aggressive move on her and she lost her shit. I've been there and I remember those early days when he started doing weird little things and I'd get pissed and snippy and he would act like I was overreacting. Oh, to be a fly on the wall!

The man has not changed one bit.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reality bites...


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, nord! I love it!

Send me some of that cheater breakup mojo, wouldya?

STBX is dumb enough to be marrying the OW without even living with her for a while to see what things are like. So, after meeting her on ashleymadison.com and largely having a LD relationship with her, he's moving her into his home with her two kids, and when my kids are there for visitation, they'll have FIVE kids to look after (and who will also have to share rooms). He's insane. Her poor kids are being ripped out of their lives and plunked down into a new one, and they think that it's all just going to work out beautifully. Oy vey.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

most likely he pulled some passive aggressive move on her and she lost her shit. I've been there and I remember those early days when he started doing weird little things and I'd get pissed and snippy and he would act like I was overreacting

Thanks for this statement, NB. Of course Sultan's mind has always painted me as the reactionary BW in a typical WS-rewriting-of-history type of way.

I remember telling him at one point...."you know what? You and I have a long history together, have kids together, and exchanged vows. Any NEW woman in your life won't have those strings attached to you...and she won't put up with your shit! Too bad that you'll have to find that out on your own though."

Dumbasses.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well....if your poor kids must witness the implosion of schmoopieville, can they please please take video?

Then YouTube it? You know- as a cautionary tale.

Or for those of us with unabashed schadenfreude.



"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm waiting for this day to happen with my dumbass STBX, but fear it happening in front of the kids.

My mom and I were just laughing while out to lunch today about STBX and his slutface out for a romantic dinner with my two kids in tow. My 5 year old was whining at lunch today that she was bored and my 6 month old was tearing everything within reach off of the table. Since they seem so eager to set up house and play "parents" to my two children, I should just let them. We'll see how long OW lasts. Oh, and she has no experience with kids.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the implosion of schmoopieville


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry your kids have to witness this. Even if they are OK about it it does do some weird shit to your brain seeing your parent lose their damn mind.

Diddums, it seems living in UnicornFartLand involves some follow throughs.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Helen of Troy
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Funny  Posted: 7:17 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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