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User Topic: Wife left me for her new boss
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allatsea, you are indeed a very fortunate man to be rid of this crazy woman. Likewise Gru is one of the unluckiest men on this planet. He just doesn't know it yet.

Your divorce is just like having an aching tooth pulled. Hurts a lot, but you are going to feel so much better afterwards. I cannot imagine spending one day in the company of this nutcase.


Posts: 1721 | Registered: May 2007 | From: NC
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"It would be easier for me if you would collect, wash, prepare, photograph, advertise, negotiate and sell said item whilst guaranteeing that you then give me all of the proceeds with minimum expectation of 6000."
The sheer all encompassing entitlement of this statement is literally staggering aas. Can she be serious? Because this is..(to coin a phrase) 'really taking the piss' ...but I actually think that she and Gru are goading you here. I think they just want a reaction. Don't let them have it because it would be giving them exactly what they want and they would love it.
I tell you, your ex is a complete and utter bitch aas, and I really hope you have your day against her in court.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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Blobette
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would totally be tempted to respond: "BWHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!! You FUNNY!"

Nothing gets people like this more than laughing at them. It drives them round the bed.

But of course you won't do that. But it's fun to think about.


BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It would be easier for me
Of course it would be!

Just like she makes things so easy for you, aas, I am sure you are all about making things "easy" for her.

I agree with Blobette, would love to see her face getting that response.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Response?

It would be far easier for me if you would drop dead, while impaled on Gru, and manage to smother him underneath your big fat entitled ass. Oh, and make sure that both of your life insurance policies have me as your beneficiary.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4857 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact she feels entitled to more money from the divorce because she's pregnant.


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6564 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there NO end to her ballsiness?? Holy shit!

Yep, check's in the mail, bitch!!!


aas, you truly are an amazing person.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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allatsea
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another letter received from her solicitor.

Full of threats and demands. Formal rejection of my settlement offer and deulsions that the court will award her significantly more money.

She is still choosing to ignore the documented fact that if each of us owes 10 to each other that you might as well not exchange the cash as the end result is the same.

During her two page diatribe where significant sums of money are discussed, she spends an entire paragraph demanding the return of ber bicycle worth 250. The very same bicycle I have told her time and time again to collect because it's in my way. She doesn't even use it. Never has. I think I saw her ride it once. And now she's pregnant and has even less need for it. Why is it one of the most important things for her solicitor to write about?!!
Ultimately the tone of the letter was to encourage me into upping the settlement offer by inciting fear.

I've since let her know that I am not the one who will be 8.5 months pregnant when this finally reaches court, nor am I the one who has deliberately witheld pension documents from the court.

Overall I continue to be incredulous that I was with this body (can't use the word person as this suggests personality, character and soul)for 19 years.

She was considered to be a very intelligent woman with common sense but it's all gone


[This message edited by allatsea at 8:20 AM, January 20th (Monday)]


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now has new baby
Divorced April 2014

Posts: 698 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've since let her know that I am not the one who will be 8.5 months pregnant when this finally reaches court, nor am I the one who has deliberately witheld pension documents from the court.
That's a perfect response to her threats aas. I can also imagine that after a two page diatribe this straight to the point response of yours will also leave her seething. Again.

I'm sure too that her solicitor must be laughing all the way to the bank. Your CSTBXWW has developed the cutting off of her nose to spite her face down to a fine art. All common sense has left her because she is now so motivated by vindictiveness.

She is not a happy woman at all aas and the woman you knew, or more probably thought you knew is gone. Personally I think this side of her was always there, but under the surface waiting to come out. She's probably been building resentments for years that have now exploded to the surface and she really thinks you are the root cause of all of her misery. One day though, this divorce will be over and she'll only be left with herself to blame if she is still unhappy. You will be long gone - and better off for it - because if she can treat you like this after her being the one who betrayed you, then you will be better off without her. As hard as it may be to get through it now - you will come out the other side of this still intact. Hurt but intact. I really don't think she will.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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alback
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mindless waste of lawyers time and fees.

Not a bad time to respond through your lawyer, re-iterating the fair offer that was made by you (last March?).

The only changes since then are the market value for your home, per the court. Unfortunately for her, she didn't accept your offer then, and the home current value means less money for her. The other change which may be significant to her, is of no connection to you is the child she is now bearing. One conceived following her vacating your home to live with her affair partner.

The court will not like how she is wasting their time when the original offer sounds to be extremely fair on your behalf.

Also include the fact that her bike has been available for her to pickup for the past 9 months. You might want to reference any letters where this was in writing before now?

Stay the course, she is unravelling.

Good luck.


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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Also include the fact that her bike has been available for her to pickup for the past 9 months.

My CSTBX included in her legal "list of demands" that I pay her for my half of all co-pays for DS's psych appointments.

When we met on Friday I showed HER attorney FIVE emails over the space of three months in which I asked her over and over to please bill me for the payments I owe her.

Even he shook his head in disbelief.

Crazy-making shit...


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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allatsea
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Default  Posted: 4:58 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today is a nerve wracking day.
It is the day that I have to meet with child services to discuss the child care situation. CSTBXWW has claimed that the children don't want to see me and that I am unable to properly care for them. She has made numerous false accusations which I obviously refute but ultimately it's her word against mine. She also states that the children should reside with her so that they have a good relationship with their new sibling

I have to hope that child services can see through her evil accusations


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now has new baby
Divorced April 2014

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mike7
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Default  Posted: 5:09 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that is really bad shit AAS.

honestly, if what is happening to you happened to me, ie my ex trying to take my kids away from me... I'm not sure I would respond appropriately.

hang in there man. I'm hoping for the best for you.

[This message edited by mike7 at 5:09 AM, January 21st (Tuesday)]


BH 53
WW 52
Two kids 21, 18

DDay 1/15/2013


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jb3199
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Default  Posted: 5:27 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good Luck, AAS.


BH-46
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 2054 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
HobbesTheTiger
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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!


BxBf, 26
Lots of FOO&other issues, working it through therapy
Legal profession

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catlover50
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you continued strength.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

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alback
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A really tough time.

You have a great deal going for you though, you know the truth, you have letters from outsiders who have seen how the children respond to you.

Keep your cool, try to have any information ready to show child services the good times you have had with your kids, the notes they leave for you etc etc.

Focus on the love you have for your kids, not the contempt you have for your witch ex. She may claim this helps them to join with her new sibling, however the sibling is not of your family, the children are already hurting and confused. They need the stability of both parents that they have known all their life. You wouldn't consider doing this to your wife despite how badly she has became. Stability is more important to them, than a make believe family that had its beginnings from lies, deceipt and infidelity. Statistics state, she has a 70% chance of doing the same to this guy too.

I wish you luck.


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LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's hoping that child services sees what a devoted Dad you are. Good luck!


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

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sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There just seem to be no depths that your CSTBXWW won't sink to. aas, you know the truth - and I hope that the child services see it too. Let us know how you get on.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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FeelingMN
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing to keep in mind, and this will take many, many years for it to happen: your kids are very young but eventually they'll figure their mom out and see the crazy. They'll still love her but they'll see her for who she is and see her faults. They'll see yours too if you allow them, kids are smart that way.

My oldest child from a different relationship has a crazy mom dealt with it for 16 years. I stayed consistent and even when I wanted to lash out with Crazy I realize now that keeping my wits was the best thing. I won't say its easy. My daughter and I had a strained relationship to say the least but I was consistent. She's gone off to college and comes to stay with us on her breaks more often than her Crazy. I never had to bash her mom in front of DD. She figured it out. I guess I just wanted to share and tell you that eventually things become right. Doesn't make today any easier but the high road leads to good things.


Me 41
fWW 37
DD(19), DS(17), DD(11) (Mine, hers, ours)
Together 14y, Married 12
DDay Aug 2010, 4 mos TT & gaslighting
ONS + EA after 15yr Class reunion out of state

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