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User Topic: Goodbye Old Girl..
Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been posting and venting for weeks about it. Now it finally happened. I watched them load her up and take her away. My heart sunk. This was my dream car. It should of never been included in the asset division. It was a gift from my lying, cheating, money hungry very soon to be EW. But in the end I couldn't prove it and I couldn't see me keeping it and losing the house that means so much more to my kids. So I post it here for you my friends to see her. I'm sorry old girl, you were a casualty of this vicious war. I only hope you get sold to someone who appreciated you as much as I did. You were more than just a car with a price tag to me. My dream car...


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 551 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, that car is gorgeous, but perhaps it's best that you no longer have it. Now, you can work toward a dream car that hasn't been tainted by the poison of your XW. Plus, you put your kids first-- that speaks volumes about your character. If they don't realize and appreciate it now, they will.

(((DTTC)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3607 | Registered: Oct 2011
Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks TA. This one really hurt. I put a lot of work into that baby. But I agree, she is tainted now. We'll see if the EW comes back wanting things still in the house she believes are her "gifts". Don't think I'll be so quick to give those up now.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 551 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's beautiful. That was actually my dream car as a kid, except in red. I think she looks even better in (tardis) blue.


I hope you'll have a chance for a New Beginning in this realm of your life.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13756 | Registered: Jul 2011
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy Crap, Dad. That car is gorgeous! I'm so sorry that you had to watch it go....but you have your priorities straight, and that's nice to see.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8034 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, that car is beautiful. Sorry you had to see her go. Sometimes being a responsible, unselfish, awesome guy sucks.

But, at the end of the day, you are a responsible, unselfish, awesome guy.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4655 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful car. That generation of Corvette was always my favorite. Sorry you're losing it.

Posts: 1694 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Lotsoflove
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! She's beautiful! And I'm so sorry you lost her!

Just know your sacrifice and unselfishness speaks volumes to me and other ladies on here about men with true character who put their kids first! So thank you!


Me: BS (34)
Him: exWH (36) SA NPD
Married 12 years 4 awesome kids

D-day 1 1/08
D-day 2 1/09
False recovery for 3 years
D-day 3 9/2011 kicked him out!!!
2 LTAs multiple EAs

Divorced oct 2013!!!!


Posts: 54 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: CA
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful, but in the end... it is just a car.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow- as a corvette owner and lover I think that might be my dream car *sigh*

I'm so sorry you had to send her off to a new home.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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doctor49
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We'll see if the EW comes back wanting things still in the house she believes are her "gifts". Don't think I'll be so quick to give those up now.

I can suggest what you might trade them for.


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Dadtryingtocope)))))


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2234 | Registered: Oct 2012
fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a beautiful car and I'm sure you have enjoyed her. However, I think it's quite appropriate that your children's swing set is in the background of the picture. You are putting your children first. That's great dad behavior. You'll build a great life for them.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
Looby-loo
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Default  Posted: 3:37 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sad I know. Another thing to grieve about, but in time this will be something your children will talk about .... How amazing their father was to put them first. There is no price tag on making your children proud,

An act of kindness this big can only bring you good fortune.

((( hugs )))


ღ♥¸¸.•*´¯`♥ღ LOVE HURTS ღ♥¸¸.•*´¯`♥ღ


DD 1: 27/12/11
DD 2: 16/04/12
Me: 49 (now 50)
WS: 44 (now 45)
OW: 33 (now 34)
Status: Divorcing / Selling our House


Posts: 223 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: UK
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:56 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, DTTC. That has to hurt.

As a balm for the wound, remember that the person who buys that car undoubtedly has been searching for her for a lifetime. By making her available, you are fulfilling a dream for someone else.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25523 | Registered: Aug 2011
veelop5
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

boy do I understand how you feel...I lost my house, my things and my kids...I am so sorry and I wish that one day you would be able to buy yourself a fresh new beauty...Good luck to you!!!


ME-38
XH-40
3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1088 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. I was pretty down all night after watching it leave on the back of the truck. My kids were sad too. They asked me why it was leaving and I admittedly said too much when I explained that "Mommy is taking it and selling it". They didn't understand yet why Mommy was taking Daddy's car. Someday they will know the whole truth.

The next few days will be tough. Temperatures in the 60's and 70's next few days. This would of been when I got the old girl out and drove her around to catch her first days of Spring. Spring and Fall are the best times for those old cars.

Hopefully someone will enjoy her and appreciate her like I did. She is a classic.

Better days ahead.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 551 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
lost4now
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry dad! She is beautiful. You are one incredibly wonderful father! My smile is the biggest when I see my daughters smiling and happy. THAT is what you have to tap in to when you have a hardship like this.

One day......I hope you get to rekindle your love for a new beauty in the future!!!


BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

Posts: 841 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: NJ
lost4now
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and.....my STBXH bought me a brand new Camaro SS Convertible (black with silver racing stripes) as a Christmas present a year ago (guilt??)....I had to get rid of it. I knew I couldn't afford the gas in that thing as a single MOM! Damn it...I know it was bought for all of the wrong reasons but I DID LOVE THAT CAR!!!

I know how you feel!


BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

Posts: 841 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: NJ
Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lost4Now - Sorry for your loss as well.

I will replace it someday. Not sure if it will be another classic or something newer. There are downsides to the classics - a lot of maintenance, tough in the summer heat, no power brakes, no power stearing, etc. But man she sounded tough coming down the road. You don't get that with the newer cars, nor the classic look with the chrome and style it had. I wish I had taken one more picture with me and the two kids in the car to frame for the house. Alas I thought of it too late.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 551 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
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