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ajsmom
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Frustrated  Posted: 10:11 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed right now and I'm hoping it's Fullmoonitis coming up this week.

TONS of anxiety about things going on with me. Some good, some bad. Trying to be patient (always tough) and proactive at the same time. I'd rather juggle knives.

I just need a few things to go right for me for once.

Doing the "breathe in, breathe out" stuff. It's not working so well.

Cover me peeps. I really don't want to go back to my friend, Xanax.

TIA,

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ajsmom))))

~~~~sending you peace~~~~


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ajsmom)))

We are here for you hun. Keeping you in my prayers.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


Posts: 13648 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ajsmom))) hang in there! You know this stuff is cyclical. You'll be through this wave soon and feeling good again. I'll be sending you PV's!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know how you feel...I have had some extra anxiety myself..Up coming shoulder surgery next wk and a few thousand other things..My doctor suggested taking an extra 1/2 pill of lorazapam. Only 1 mg..I'm like you I don't want to ever go back on Xanax or Zoloft again..

I just hope you and I can get through all this without going back to one of those harder drugs...

Hang in there girlie..Things will get better....((((ajsmom)))))))


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Ajsmom))


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love Xanax. Can't you just take one to calm yourself down a bit? I don't take it regularly, just when I'm feeling like you are now. Usually one pill takes the edge off and once I calm down, I can talk myself into staying calmer.
Just a thought.
(((ajsmom)))


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Covering you... downright smothering you!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15362 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AJsmom,

(((hugs))). Maybe a fast walk around the block? And I have been known to cut 1 of those xanax in half.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 673 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are natural alternatives to Xanax that may be just enough to take the edge off for you:

Herbal tinctures - 1/2 to 1 dropper full in a small amount of water, swig it down fast they don't taste good:
Hops
Valerian
Passion Flower
Skullcap

Nutrition:
GABA - 300-750mg
Magnesium Glycinate: 300-500mg

Cut back on caffeine too.

This is what I do when I am anxious and it really makes a difference. Save the meds for extreme cases to avoid the rebound effects and side effects.

A small percentage of the population has an opposite response to Valerian, it's a sedative and muscle relaxant for most people.

You may only need one of these suggestions, I don't mean that you have to all of them.

Good luck!

[This message edited by InnerLight at 12:07 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)]


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Ajsmom)))))

Sending prayers... and more hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4860 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((ajsmom)))) we got ya covered, Sister!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3019 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all so much.

I'm feeling a bit better. I've been caffeine free since 2002 (arrhythmia issues) so it's been some lovely decaf Lemon Zinger for me today. Trust me there are days that I wish I could have caffeine.

On the occasion that I do take it, I usually do cut it in half. I'm just trying really hard to get through these times with my own (and that of friends) resolve.

Thanks again for all the support. It is truly appreciated and much needed right now.


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
redvixen
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((((AJsMom)))))))))))))


Me, BS Him WS early 40's at the start, cheated before and after cancer diagnosis.
Two A's, two OW's, online looking for sex partners, two false R's.
Threw him out in January 2009.
Divorce final March 30th, 2010

XWH died Dec. 2010


Posts: 4104 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: New Jersey
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there. I keep the Ativan handy for those once-in-a-blue moon episodes.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17174 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Come on! Let's go dancing!!

(Glad you're feeling better; I certainly know that feeling...)


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19812 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((big hugs!!)))

I had a weird dream that I know is anxiety related. Maybe something is in the air?


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5617 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
hexed
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((AJ))

you've got all the positive vibes I've got.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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