Either that or drive you wife into the arms of another OM. Just doesn't seem fair does it. Apply the 180, sleep in another bedroom, no affection and she would probably eventually leave.
Thats why I think you're doing a good job rebuilding your marriage and laying off talking so much about the betrayal. Just don't slowly revert back to the bad relationship and you will be OK.
You have to live with the images of her with the OM; she has to live with her unfaithful wife status, reduced trust and the permanent stain she has visited on the marriage. Also the undermining of her christian principles. You are probably better off.
He needs to put his own needs first now and if that means getting angry then so be it.
I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.
[This message edited by idiot85 at 6:13 PM, April 13th (Saturday)]
Multi famam, conscientiam, pauci verentur.
[This message edited by tdreampol at 7:15 PM, April 13th (Saturday)]
the stop sign thing works for the small ones, but not the really bad ones. any advice?? :(