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User Topic: A reminder that I'm alone
tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 42 year old neighbor who never married and has no children, had a stroke a couple months ago. As her mother was getting her house ready to come home to, her mother had a heart attack and is in the hosptial. My neighbor's brother, who has a heart condition and is partially blind is taking care of her since she came home Thursday. Another female neighbor and I offered to give her baths so to give dignity to the situation. She was crying in the shower saying tonight how she has no one but her brother.

I am reminded that this could be me now that I'm divorced. I will be there for her as much as I can. We are planning showers for every other day unless she needs one sooner.

I've also been taking her brother shopping since he can't drive.

I wish I could do more. I work 40 hours a week and have two boys.


BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

Posts: 3247 | Registered: Dec 2008
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sure your neighbour appreciates your kindness more than you know, you are doing a wonderful thing for and her family. Every little bit helps. But when you are sick it is a reminder that we are alone ((Tabitha))


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1318 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I told her tonight that I feel guilty that we didn't know each other better before. The other neighbor said she never thought we'd all be showering together.

She can't use her right side. She is learning to use a walker.


BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

Posts: 3247 | Registered: Dec 2008
Happydays
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Member # 38681
Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^ wow you're such a wonderful person.
Kudos!


BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I told her tonight that I feel guilty that we didn't know each other better before. The other neighbor said she never thought we'd all be showering together.

But see, now she's not alone. And neither are you. You have 2 neighbors you can call on, and a brother of a neighbor. Even if the stroke victim can't help you physically, she may have some valuable contacts you may need in the future. This isn't a reminder that you're alone, it was an opportunity to bring new people into your life. And helping others makes one happy.


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are a very sweet person for helping your neighbor and her brother. I also think about what I will do when I D WH#2. I have very little immediate family left and they live thousands of miles from me. My son is in the military and rarely calls me unless he needs something. My health is not good and the thought of being alone scares me to death, so I know what you mean about being alone. Hopefully if something ever happens your neighbors will also be there for you. As previously said look at it as an opportunity to meet new people. (((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But see, now she's not alone. And neither are you. You have 2 neighbors you can call on, and a brother of a neighbor. Even if the stroke victim can't help you physically, she may have some valuable contacts you may need in the future. This isn't a reminder that you're alone, it was an opportunity to bring new people into your life.

Spot on. ((((tabitha))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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