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User Topic: Moving on....finally
dumbndumber
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After 2 1/2 yrs of separation I have finally started moving my divorce forward. I never understood why she didn't do it herself but I made things very easy and comfortable for her. I finally got it that she will never be able to be with me again. Its really just so sad. We are very cordial, we share 3 kids and run in all the same circles, there is no trash talking or hurtful words. I am trying hard to be her "friend", I know I hurt her but her coldness still seems to hurt me back even after all this time.
I think our mediation will go well, we have agreed on most of the big ticket issues already- custody, money, length of alimony. I cover college blah blah blah.
I start seeing a great girl and am really making progress through therapy and just talking it out with friends. Prospects are great for the future. My kids are doing really well.

But...I am so sad for the kids, not having a dad who lives full time with them. I live 2 miles away, I see them all the time & they stay with me alot and feel love from both of us. I am strong but when it comes to them, my heart really breaks although I never let them see that.
I have a great relationship now, by anyone's measures I'm lucky to have a great girl like this who I have alot of feelings for. I just wish I could get over my STBX. She left me no choice but to move on so I have been trying...somewhat successfully. I look forward to the day when I wake up and don't miss her and the great family we had that I royally fucked up!

When I think about the things I did, the lying, the cheating I get physically ill now like who the fuck was I? I was never that way before & never will be again.

So many lessons learned the hard way. Moving on with the divorce, a normal relationship is the only way. Its just really so sad.
I have received alot of good advice here especially from BW's . I thank you all, it has been a real help.


WH 45 turned into BH
BS 39 turned into WS
dday 7/8/09
3 awesome kids

Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: NY
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((dumbndumber)))

it very much hurts moving to the next phase. To me its like another piece of the pain puzzle that you just end up having to cop.

so sorry you are here. Glad that you have learnt from your past. At the end of the day that is all we can really hope to do. Then we move forward to a brighter future as healthier individuals.

Take care of yourself, be gentle with you. Im down at the moment too and focusing on what comforts me, so no advice or words of wisdom. Im new and learning as i go. Wanted you to know that you had been heard though.

I dont have kids but raised by a single mother I would suggest that coming from a broken home rather than being in a broken home is ultimately better. It doesnt make it any easier on you as their dad though. Keep being the best dad you can be. It will count for a lot in future.

((((Hugs)))


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


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