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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On my phone so pls. excuse typos. So this one lady who is training me doesn't like this other coworker I work with and tries to give me her work (think she wants her gone) so today she says well you will be taking over her job eventually...wtf? So if the other coworker is out and she gives me her work I help out but if she's in I give it to her. So stressed..will post more fr home. Thx


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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry could a mod pls move to off topic? Thx


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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage




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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What's the "ranking" of these coworkers? Is the woman training you your supervisor, or the supervisor of the "disliked" colleague?

I would say talk to your supervisor about it possible, because 1) you were hired to do your own job, not hers, and 2) it's completely inappropriate for her to be treating the other colleague this way!

Is it possible the other colleague is planning to leave soon and you just haven't been told?


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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for moving this!

Well she is not my supervisor but my supervisor values her opinion greatly as I interviewed her. I think something went down with her and this co-worker. I don't know why she doesn't like her. I want to be friends with both (they sit in different areas so it's not too awkward for me). I feel that she wants to influence my supervisor to get rid of this co-worker and have me take on her duties I feel like it's all "talk" right now. Nothing has been said that the co-worker is leaving or me taking over her job by my supervisor. It's kind of a tangled web


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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have the kind of relationship where you can mention it to your supervisor in a "is there something I should know going on here...?" way?


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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, April 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I'm so new its hard to tell. I would go in knowing she will tell the training lady. Also someone else I work for is saying they want me to do this woman's job


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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So now something else with this person. Today she says she is turning something over to me to handle from now on. It has nothing to do with the other woman's job she wants me to take on. She's not my supervisor so this feels weird. Of course one of the few times I check e-mail (rarely go online) my supervisor walks up behind me Tomorrow is a lunch for Admin day and both women are going so it will be awkward for me to be friendly to both since the one lady who trains me can't stand the other lady - fun


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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I mustered up some nerve and just updated my supervisor about the training lady wanting to turn over something for me to handle from now on and she said it was a good thing and good for me to learn new things
Won't bring up that other woman's job unless something actually happens. Happy Admin day

[This message edited by Why?? at 8:27 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Remain neutral bc the other lady hasnt offended you so dont feel weird... Its their issue not yours.... Dont be weird towards the other lady bc then she'd know the trainer must have said something to you about her otherwise you wouldnt be acting weird towards her...

Good luck...


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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So the lunch went ok. I guess I'm too new (3+ mos) for flowers. Trainer lady got 2 vases. Oh well. We are the 2 admins of the dept.


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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really think you need to loop your supervisor in if this woman is overstepping her bounds in terms of assigning you work. It could very easily escalate, and you'd rather have something informally on record with either your supervisor or HR.


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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ama. Yes, I agree. That's why I told sup. about new stuff she's turning over to me. Hope you had a good Admin Day

Now where's my winning lottery ticket??


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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay neutral. Do what they give you to do. You told your supervisor and she said it would be good for you to do new things. That means she doesn't have a problem with them giving you things. I'd stay completely out of it and focus on learning the new things they are giving you. It's an opportunity for YOU to raise your profile when you do a good job.

It sounds like you're starting to get sucked into the drama at least by being someone they talk to - don't get sucked in. Listen but don't comment in any way that would make it look like you take sides. Be Switzerland.


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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So things are getting worse. The person who wants me to do the other lady's job came to me today and verbally said he wants me to start taking it over. This is not the training lady or my supervisor. I told him I would need to speak with my supervisor and he was like I'll take care of that. Overwelmed at this point. In addition to the things the training lady has turned over to me I now have to cover for a sick employee who might not come back. Help!!!

[This message edited by Why?? at 10:44 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You need to sit down with your supervisor ASAP!


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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ama. I just spoke with her.
She's going to talk with him and is on my side. I was so nervous.


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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YAY! for good supervisors.


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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm nervous for how he will act towards me after she talks to him. I work for him just not that stuff the other woman does. She said she wouldn't say "I told on him" , kwim?


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why, it sounds to me like yr chain of command is unclear. Make an appt with your supervisor -- your direct supervisor -- for 20 - 30 minutes. Tell her that you need to get clarity in your responsibilities and on your reporting line, so that you can be sure you are working the best you can.

Work out with her:
*!What are my job responsibilities.
*Who do I report to, and who can direct my work?
*What goals does she (yr supervisor) have for you for the next six months? For the next year?

Take notes. Send her an email promptly after your meeting, summarizing it is good detail, and asking if you have left anything out or misunderstand anything,

Make corrections if she suggests them.

Revisit it in two months, as a check in on "how I'm doing". Revise list of responsibilities at that time.

Good luck!


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