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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Stronger One for such excellent tips

Things are good. My supervisor was supportive and spoke with the guy and thankfully he's acting normal with me today.

Ready to kick off the weekend stat!!!


"Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game."

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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad that was helpful. Always keep good records of what's going on. When you meet with a supervisor or coworker to discuss what needs to be done, take notes and send an email with your "minutes." No one will think it's odd. In fact, you will probably get a good rep for being on top of things!


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Flame  Posted: 6:39 PM, May 20th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This training lady won't back off. Today she's like so are you starting to take over so & so's job and I'm like no and she's like we need to get that position up here to you!! WTF!


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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, May 20th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"You know, I talked to Supervisor about that, and she said that there was no plan to transition the job at this time. I think there may have been some miscommunication somewhere, but for now, my orders from Supervisor are pretty clear - I'm to focus on xyz set of work."


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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ama. That sounds really good. I am just so tired of all this and recently met with my new supervisor about this so I think I'm going to ignore her comments right now. She can wish this all she wants but she isn't my supervisor. I just don't want to cause friction since there is still a great deal she is training me on. Such a yucky situation


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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What about telling her something like, "oh man, I still have so much of my own job to learn! Can we focus on xyz set of work and once I'm up to speed there, I can talk with Supervisor about what else she wants me to add in?"


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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you said what you really feel yet?

Try "I am not comfortable being apart of taking away Jane Smith's job, so until my direct supervisor tells me that these jobs are now mine, I think my time would be best spent learning my current job responsiblities and duties"

Also, at this point, I would be slipping a note to the other lady to tell her that they are trying to out her. But I am bitchy like that.

I also think that at some point you need to have a paper trail so that you can go back and say "no, this is what my supervisor advised me of. Thanks You"


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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh...now a 3 rd person has asked when am I taking over this lady's job...so sick of this bs


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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ignore it. Or you can say you were told nothing of the sort by your supervisor. Then excuse yourself as youre busy with your job.

To me it seems like office drama. people eagerly awaiting a firing


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks this womans motives are that she wants this lady to do more work for her...ignore, ignore...


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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rough week...moving closer to micromanaging coworker who isn't my boss...plus older yuckie location


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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unless this micromanager is in some capacity your official supervisor, I think you need to take the bull by the horns and ask your boss to have a talk with her, especially if this starts to interfere with your ability to do your job. And invest in a good pair of headphones and get used to repeating the phrase, "oh, I'm sorry, I didn't hear you because I was busy working."


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ama. Sounds like a good plan.

Move went ok. I'm now closer to more people so at least it's a tiny bit more social. She's been ok so far. The type that arrives late and stays late and then looks at you funny for leaving on time. Whatever


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Angry  Posted: 7:15 AM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, it finally happened. My worst nightmare. They are eliminating that co-worker's job that certain people have been wanting me to do. Got the news this week from my supervisor. They are moving her to another opening (demotion for her). I am in shock and not sure what to do. I will try this but I don't see how taking on this other job is going to work. She was overwelmed and made mistakes and she only had the one job. So


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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PS - Now I will have to work closer with the person I have the crush on (trying to get over that). Also, this person isn't the easiest to work with and constantly complained about the co-worker getting moved out of the job

[This message edited by Why?? at 7:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry Why??

Can you voice your concerns about the work load and personality differences to your supervisor, and be really honest with her/him about what specific tasks you are able/willing to take on, and which you aren't?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ama. Yeah, I did talk with supervisor and I wasn't really given the option of taking certain parts of the job. It was all factual like that job is gone and it's now yours. I think they may have been planning this all along. Why else were those others constantly bringing it up to me? I'll do the best I can but if things start messing up/falling thru the cracks, I'll have to say something. Hopefully, since I have a good track record so far they will see that this added job put me over the edge.

On another note, how are your big move preparations going? I'll have to see if you have a post about this exciting time


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Sad  Posted: 6:51 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feel like I made a huge mistake taking this job. 7 days with add. job and I don't know how much longer I can do this


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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You need to communicate that to your boss, Why??


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ama. Yeah you are right. At least this is killing that crush...lol. Think he was only being nice because he wanted me to do this job...selfish not caring that I already had the job I was hired for. Would love to quit and buy one way ticket to Paris...


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