Topic: My WH has joined SI
Member # 38604
| Posted: 3:12 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
I hope he finds the support and people here as helpful as I have.
If your SO is on SI too, did it help or inhibit?
ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 14 and 11
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/12/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm interested in.
Posts: 410 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 36711
| Posted: 3:18 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
It has saved us. He seems to understand things better if he reads them, and reading from both views has truly helped him. He didn't really "get it" when he first joined, but has gradually gotten better. Reading other's posts bring it home for him.
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1194 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 6037
| Posted: 3:26 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
I'm glad he joined up. Maybe he will see the destruction he has caused and finally "get it"
I wish my ex would have
If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
Posts: 4967 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: Michigan
Member # 38787
| Posted: 3:37 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
I joined first and told him about the site and he joined. I think it does help because the ws can read how their actions effected their spouses life, feeling, emotions, etc. i have learned a Lot from other members. I know it help me greatly to know I wasn't crazy or alone. That my feeling were normal.
Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22
Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Member # 37630
| Posted: 3:57 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
oh well.. in my case, WW found SI and told me..
coming to your question, IMO this site is an amazing support for BSs, but an absolute necessity for WSs. A WS being here is the best thing for them personally and if the couple wants to R.
so, if he can man up and get the courage to keep on posting, it will be a big help..
[This message edited by CrappyLife at 3:59 PM, April 12th (Friday)]
BBF-turned-BH: 28 (Me)
WGF-turned-WW: 28 (EmotionalFool)
POS1: a 'friend'? WW believed it was my 'best friend'!
POS2: her senior at work!
Together - 6 years
Married - 1.5 years
Don't know where we are headed..
Posts: 276 | Registered: Nov 2012
Member # 38135
| Posted: 5:06 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
Big help for both of us.
There's so much wisdom and support on here and it's pretty much 24/7.
I'm so grateful for the people who've stuck around or returned to pay it forward to the rest of us.
♪I'm not fine; I'm in pain
It's harder every day ~ Maroon 5♫
BS:45 WH:47 needhelp123
8yr EA&PA w/MCOW emp/frmr emp
19y M * 25y T, 2 teens
DDay 12/31/12*5w TT
Sick tired sad
Posts: 273 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 38341
| Posted: 5:09 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
It has helped us incredibly. I credit this forum with helping us communicate about his A's and infidelity in general.
And, when he first posted, he got a few healthy 2X4's from the WW's which helped pull his head out of his backside.
Just call me Heart. :)
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain
Posts: 375 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
Member # 14918
| Posted: 5:30 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013|
Yeah, mine joined, too. Only problem is that he doesn't think it's helpful or relevant in his case. He never posts and it frustrates me, to say the least.
I think that he doesn't post because there's still things he hasn't told me. It's been 9 years. Yeah, he only joined to keep me from leaving.
Hopefully, you'll have better luck.
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
Posts: 1086 | Registered: Jun 2007
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