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Divorce/Separation :
I'm tying a knot..

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 PurpleRose (original poster member #33129) posted at 1:53 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

Cause I've reached the end of my rope this week and I am about to lose it. So damn frustrated and tired of always being the one to get screwed.

When does this end!??! I'm ready to just let go of this damn rope already...

divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...

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KeepOnMovin ( member #38245) posted at 2:06 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

I'm right there with you PurpleRose! Been a rough week. If STBXWW gets anything close to what she's seeking in the temporary support order, i'm going to have to get a part time job (in addition to my regular full time job) or just quit eating just to stay in the black on the balance sheet!

So far i'm learning there is nothing 'just' about the 'justice system'!

Tie that knot and don't let that mother f*#&@r see you sweat!

Me: Creating a better life for myself
Her: Somebody else's problem
Married: 22 years
2 sons at home
1 son in college
Divorced on 9/4/14!
Often it's the deepest pain which empowers you to grow into your highest self.

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inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 2:12 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

Just keep holding on. It will get better. It just takes...(insert dreaded 4-letter word - time).

I know, I know. You know that. But you haven't gotten there yet, and you're wondering how the fuck will you ever get there.

It will happen. Because you're stronger than you know. Because you'll tie that damn knot and hold on. And right when you think you're going to have to let go, this army of SIers will boost you back up, and hold you up until you're ready to hold on again.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 2:29 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

(((((PurpleRose))))) I hear you. In the beginning, you think the A is the WORST of it. Oh no no no no ... it's the thousands of shit sandwiches we (kids included) are forced to eat.

How about I hold on to the bottom of the rope and you can stand on my shoulders! DO NOT LET GO!! HUGS HUGS HUGS!!

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:51 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

So damn frustrated and tired of always being the one to get screwed.

Lordy, I SO understand that one.

Just keep breathing, honey. In and out. And while you're breathing, hop down to Fun & Games and find a laugh or two. Or maybe just an eye roll.

Did we mention it's wine thirty?

((((((PurpleRose)))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 3:01 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

I hear ya. It's been one of those weeks for me as well. Exhausting, frustrating... I was actually getting annoyed with my job because I actually had to go in and do it! I would have much rather stayed in bed and wallowed in my misery, believe me.

Hang in there. I hope you can relax a bit and enjoy the weekend. I fully plan on it before the next wave of crazy hits...

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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healingtree ( member #15467) posted at 3:31 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

The ability to find happiness in the smallest of things can help you get through even the toughest times.

Hoping you find moments of joy in those small things. A flower, a smile, a laugh from a kiddo, catch those moments and hold on to them. Regardless of what is going on around us - all we have is right now.

Sending love light and peaceful moments to you!

FBS 1st D-day 7-11-07, 2nd DDay Post-Breakup in 8-12, since then, setting my own course
HIM - Doesn't Matter Anymore
The only thing we can change about the past is how we look at it.

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npain ( member #33539) posted at 4:55 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

(((PurpleRose))) Hang in there. I have had a rough week too and I can't get over the injustices of the situations we all face but we have to believe that it will get better.

Keep your head up...

S, Filed 4/17/14--YAY, ME!!

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exhausted lady ( member #30217) posted at 5:40 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

(((PurpleRose)))

No advice. I've been there too many times myself and I have no idea how I've held on sometimes....but I did. You will too. The worst will be over soon. Keep your goal in the crosshairs, and hang on honey.

If necessary, duct tape your hands right above the knot in that damned rope.

Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr

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gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 6:58 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

When does this end!??! I'm ready to just let go of this damn rope already...

Lord knows I was there for along time. Then I FINALLY got pissed (it took several people close to me to get me there but I finally did after many melt downs). I didn't get everything but I got a hell of lot more than FT thought I would.

Find those bitch pants and shoes and don't let up on him. Put him on the defense. Let him worry what your next legal move will be.

I had FT so stressed that he ended up having a heart attack. FUCK HIM ! He didn't care if I had a roof or ate when him and his attorney were playing their games with me.

I won only a couple battles in court but they were BIG !

I ended up driving the divorce and you can too.

Big Hugs and you are NOT alone !

Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 12:58 AM, April 13th (Saturday)]

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:29 PM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

Hang on, PR!!!!

Figure out your worst case scenario for everything...it sucks having to think about it but then again, everything about D sucks big sweaty donkey balls.

Then make your best case scenarios and ask for more.

Prepare for the worst. Ask for more than you are going to get and FTG.

You may be surprised. I wanted all of ex-shat's 2012 tax return. I expected nothing. I got half.

Ex-shat only wanted to give me 6 months to refinance house. I said 2 years or take me to court. I got the 2 years.

Do not be afraid to be a brazen bitch to get what you want.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:04 PM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

How are you doing, PR? ((((hugs))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 10:41 PM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

I finally had to let go of the rope and see where I landed. Turned out I was only inches from "the bottom", anyway. So my advice is, unless you're talking about self-harm or criminal activity, just let go.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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velveteer ( member #30997) posted at 11:26 PM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013

((((((PR)))))))

Divorced

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Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 12:58 AM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013

I hope next week feels better for you!

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

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confused51 ( member #29269) posted at 2:33 AM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013

PurpleRose keep hanging on and hopefully next week will be better for you.

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