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User Topic: Pay as go phones
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm personally not into the dating scene yet, like into the 'seeking a date' scene.

But a super co-worker of mine is. She's early 50's and hasn't dated in forever. So she's signed up on a site and is getting hits (why not, she's adorbs!)

We were talking the other day and she mentioned she's a little weary about giving cell out for texting/calling purposes I guess once she jumps over the 'site messaging' (?) meeting. I don't know, but sounds like you get a hit, chat almost PM like and take it further or not.

So is it the norm to give out REAL cell phone? I suggested a pay as you go deal, but the more we talked...it's not like your cell is as accessible online as a home phone would be (like googling your home landline and SEEING your house online).

She's trying to be safe and I'm curious too.

And then we couldn't remember how to block calls, like *6-what number? Is that even how you block callers these days?

I don't feel old until I talk about technology. LOL!



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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I ever go back to OLD, my first move will be to get a pay-as-you-go phone. My cell is my only phone, I have to have it on & with me at all times due to my parents.

I had a bad experience with a guy (never even went out with the dude after talking to him once). I told him no thanks....and he kept calling for months. If he hadn't been in my contacts, (I ignored the calls), I would have been forced to at least say hello.

I got stalker vibes from him - BIG TIME from the one conversation. Him, and one other guy - almost as bad - kind of turned me off of OLD.

If I ever venture back into the fray, you can bet your a$$ I'm going to have a second phone I can turn off, or ditch.

There are websites (I think you have to pay) that will give you the address of a cell phone holder too. That kind of scares me. I live alone out in the country and my big dog with the big bark passed away a couple of months ago.

With OLD, you can never be too careful.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, EL!

I got not seeing the need...but I also think, these phones are so cheap - safety is priceless. If someone turns out to be weird, no big. You threw $50 away and are still unharmed.



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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wannabe.....IMHO it would be $50 well spent. I think a pay-as-you-go phone you wouldn't have to give a physical address or any info like that. Much safer!!!

Mr. Stalker-vibes lived 200 miles away, and it still kind of gave me chills that he was SOOO persistent, even though I had never even met him.

It was weird, I never got those vibes from his emails, but there was something in his voice that set my radar and my gut off. Always trust your gut!!!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, April 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just don't see that as money wasted AT.ALL. I will encourage her to go the 'other phone' route.

Things are so different now with technology and all.



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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, April 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was going to do that when I started OLD but I got lazy. I no longer see the need for me personally. I can block or ignore (and have) anyone who keeps calling.

The majority of people out there are normal enough though.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13756 | Registered: Jul 2011
phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, April 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Ama.

This topic gets discussed here every few months, so I've thought about it a lot, but I just can't see any benefit to doing it.

Most guys give up when you tell them to or ignore them long enough. If someone really wants to find you, they'll do it even if you just give them the prepaid phone number. The inconvenience of having two cell phones far outweighs any perceived benefit, IMO.

Incidents of someone coming to harm through meeting someone via online dating are so rare that they make news when it happens. And the ones I've found happened when the woman agreed to go on a date with the guy -- couldn't find any where the guy tracked a lady down from a phone number and attacked her. You really ought to be more scared of being injured by a significant other or riding in an automobile.

If someone wants to, go for it, but I really don't see how it provides any additional security at all.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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peacelovetea
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, April 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a Google Voice number, and put the app on my regular phone. It meant I could use my regular phone for contact, texting or whatever, and not have to carry around a separate phone, but my number is not tied to anything (and is in fact based out of my home state, which I havent lived in for more than a decade haha). I also used a dedicated new email account with a very different username from my real accounts.


BW, SAHM
D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final

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