Now that he is gone, many people tell me they didn't like him but couldn't put their finger on it. Its the narcissism, which shows up at workplaces too.
Karma will come, it is for me and will for you. The wallet is the way to go because money is part of their image, so take all you can.
If you dont need it, maybevyou could donate it to a charity that supports something he hates? I'm going to use it for education and paying down the mortgage.
I hope more light will shine between bouts of pain. One thing that helps me is our daughter and meeting small personal goals for her and i.
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge
Is there any way you can move out of the home you shared with him? You need a fresh start, if not, start with redecorating your bedroom with all new linnens, curtains, paint the living room, change whatever you can in your surroundings. I know this sounds stupid, but it will keep your mind busy and focusing on something else.
Then try to NOT to find out anything about him, don't look on Facebook, don't ask friends about him - nothing, the more space, and the least you know about him, the sooner you will start healing. Knowing that stuff, will continue to set you back.
FTG - he is not worth it. They will get their day, remember how can a relationship last, that started out based on a lie?
Focus on you right now. I am a true believer that things happen for a reason, I know you don't want to hear that right now, but somehow, God knows what HE is doing! Just believe in the future, have hope that good things will come your way!
When a person shows you who they are, believe them - Maya Angelou
This is cheater speak for "how can it be wrong when the angels themselves played a hand in bringing us together?"
I'm sure there were more than a few snickers when you're WH made that statement, along with "wonder how long this one will last" comments.
I know it hurts, but it's also allowing you to see who he really is more clearly. You deserve so much more than this.
I know it hurts, my fwh hooked up w old fuck tunnel at the college regents when she came on board. Spent those dinners with her, sometimes my son and his girlfriend. Thinks no one knew. Now it is me there, in the front of the room, with the power hitters, and guess what? I told a powerful friend at the univ, and she simply just left at the end of her term. No one asked her back or called her, and one can only assume, she is pissed. No way she didn't know that for the last 2 years she was in the back of the room at every "social", Bummer. Especially for someone who feeds on attention.
He will soon feel the same. Not to worry. Stay strong, vent here, and take everything you deserve from the marriage. You were a lovely wife and reason for his success, he blew it up. They both know it.
[This message edited by fourever at 8:02 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)]
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
I'm so sorry for your pain but truly, your H received the Distinguished Asshole award...and he confirmed it all by a shout-out to his whore GF! Soul mate, seriously...he is a classless douche!
As LivinginLimbo said, you deserve so much better than this! For today, focus on doing just one nice thing for yourself...anything at all that will give you a lift...and then wake up tomorrow and do something else positive...keep taking those steps towards happiness - force yourself if you must (and I think at times it does feel forced). Hopefully soon you will establish a new pattern in your life - one that says there is something good in each day, and its about me.
I'm so sorry for your pain but I also know you will get to the other side.
I'd like to suggest you let whoever told you this latest tidbit to please not tell you stuff like this anymore. Tell them directly that it hurts you and prevents you from healing. If they don't stop, you need to distance yourself from them.
I just wish people knew the truth about him, that he's not this great guy, Chairman of boards, bank regional president, kind and honest guy. He's a self serving, narcissist pig. All these things just feed his ego, his attempt to fix that hole that is inside him, that will always be inside him.
He doesn't even donate that much money to the charities, the bank does. Everyone kisses his butt because of that. People spend time with him because "he" is a donor. It's the bank, not him. He made 1.8 million dollars last year and donated 10K to charity. That's a very small portion of his salary, he could easily afford more. He just bought an 80K car. He treats himself very well.
I hope the Karma bus runs him over!! I hope he has a massive fall from grace (but doubt that will ever happen). So hard when you want justice and know it's never going to come.