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User Topic: Night terrors
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last night was horrid. Woke up twice yelling from a dead sleep from bad dreams. Dreams are always about being betrayed or abandoned by WH.

I have been diagnosed with PISD, on AD's in IC. I do have moments that I'm ok, I smile and have peace for a few hours. But it's always just a short while before I trigger and spiral down. WH is always asking what he can do, tries to help. Right now, I think I'm going through an anger stage. I want him to help, but I don't want him to help. He tells me that I'll never understand the remorse he feels, because it overwhelms him. Idk, maybe I need him to verbalize it more. Every day, sometimes every hour I want something different. But in the end, what I really want is to feel safe.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 461 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally understand. I had nightmares for years. When I married my FWH, he woke me out of them for about 3-4 years, and it got to where he would sense me heading into one, would stroke me in my sleep, and I would never quite get into the nightmare. After DDay, the nightmares came back with a vengence.

I have to say that they are much lessoned. I still have an occasional one, but I found that the more trustworthy he acted and the more trust I started giving him because of that, the less and less the nightmares come. I look forward to a time when they are gone again. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Chefj9)))


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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