I always try to go easy and not let everything in my brain out on a post when the member is new, but for the record I am resisting the urge to come to your house, pack all of your WH's stuff in a hefty bag, and heave it out onto the lawn.
You sound so kind and gentle, and I'm afraid he's really good at taking advantage of that. Keep listening to everyone, we'll help you through this.
For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
I'm glad you found us - I'd have been lost without SI (I only wish I had found it earlier!)
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare
[This message edited by betrayed2years at 4:18 AM, April 21st (Sunday)]
I'm so glad you found SI when you did. I wish I had done so after my first, second, third, etc., etc., DDays.. I didn't find it til after my most recent (last?) DDay. I had to try and figure all this shit out on my own! What a hell of a nightmare that was. I'm still not over it by any stretch of the imagination, but being a part of SI, knowing that I'm perfectly 'normal' for feeling the way I feel, and being involved in IC and MC has made things SO much better.
Best of luck to you, and keep reading and posting (if you feel comfortable, that is). We BS' are ALL here for YOU!