So, if I understand this, your SO owns the home in which you are living?
I know you want to save the relationship and go back to being a couple, but this is a two-way street. You can't do this alone. As much as you want to fight for this, he has to want it too. Maybe you need to do a hard 180, if for no other reason, than to protect yourself.
I'm sorry to say this, but he doesn't sound like any prize to me. A drinker, abusive, and mean to a disabled child? What a peach.
You can do better than this.
[This message edited by k9lover1 at 1:45 PM, April 21st (Sunday)]
[This message edited by HelpMe123 at 11:11 AM, April 21st (Sunday)]
So...he's clearly abusive to his kids.
And now he is having an affair...which is also abusive. He is being emotionally,mentally,and verbally abusive to you...so clearly he has not gotten any help for his anger/abusive ways.
If this man doesn't realize he needs intensive therapy..why would you want him around your kids?
That poor little boy..to have his father say things like that.
ETA: Does the OW have a kid? if so,I'd send her a copy of that recording..and tell her *this* is the man who she is in luuuurrrrrvvveee with. If she has any sense at all(haha) she will run as far from this abusive monster as possible.
[This message edited by confused615 at 11:35 AM, April 21st (Sunday)]
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.