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User Topic: He went to the police
HelpMe123
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So after a weekend with OW, WS found the phone I put in his car and took it to the police looking for a PFA!!!! I am horrified!!!! Thank god I have appointment at my lawyer tomorrow, but I fear this is going to get ugly and expensive.


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What's a PFA?


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 489 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
HelpMe123
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

basically a restraining order, for leaving a phone in his car that has a gps tracker on it. Nothing police could do, it's not illegal to leave your phone in someone's car (it was our son's phone)


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Screw it, he does not want to R. I know it must be really hard for you. Keep us posted about your Lawyer app. When that is done, contact the AP. You may be able to bust up that fantasy with some hard facts. Though I would want to know how long the A was going on before going to the Lawyer.


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 933 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
MFC2011
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He thinks he's going to get a Protection From Abuse order for a phone in the car?


Dday#1: 12/25/11, Dday#2: 3/28/12, 4+ OW
It's in the stars
It's been written in the scars on our hearts
That we're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again
-Pink, "Just Give Me A Reason"

Posts: 795 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: USA
HelpMe123
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yup and a text message saying "ur a lying dirtbag"


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How in the world did he find the phone? Wasn't it placed underneath the car seat?


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

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HelpMe123
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yep it was...I have no idea...maybe it made a noise or something for a game my kid plays, maybe it flashed if someone called...but yep he found it.


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry you're going through this!

I would say that you now know the truth so mission accomplished. You can't change the fact that he is a lying piece of crap but you can now change your focus totally off of him and your relationship and focus on your kids and taking care of yourself while you mentally deal with all that he has just put your through.

((((Helpme123))) he is showing you who he is right now and now you have to show him that what he is choosing to be isn't good enough for you and your children. I know that is *MUCH* easier said than done.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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Chicky
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder if maybe it slid pout from under the seat when he hit brakes or something. I saw your post about putting it in the car and that was my first thought. Of course hindsight is 20/20 but should you try it again (and I say that because I would, but that's just me) I would put it in the trunk like in the wheel well of a spare tire or in the pocket behind the seat.

I would love to have been a fly on the wall when he walked into the police station with a phone...A PHONE! That's some serious threat right there!


Half of the truth is a WHOLE lie.

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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Who's name is the car in ? I really don't think you have anything to worry about. What a pussy he is. I hate it when a WS tries to use the law to facilitate their A. My XWW pulled that shit and it blew up in her face.
She was exposed publicly for the POS whore she was. Don't sweat this one. Give him enough rope and he will hang himself.


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HelpMe123
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He really is not the type of person to get police involved in anything...he's very private...my guess is it was the OW pressuring him. She believes we were seperated she has told him I am stalking him because I text him and call him. Now mind you this has been day 11 since Dday! I'm not stalking him. he's cheating on me! I am at a loss for words at this point...how did my entire world collapse in less then 2 weeks


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
putonahappyface
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((helpme))). I'm sorry he is such a jerk. It really is amazing how one's entire life can change practically overnight. Peace & strength to you & your kids!


BS (me) - 50; SAWH- 51 (hurtherbadly)
Married 26 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)


Posts: 720 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Bluegrass
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd say he's grasping at straws. The police will just send him on his merry way, they don't want to get involved in stuff like this.

My WH told me he'd take legal action for accessing his 'private' emails and that by forwarding one to my own email address, I was in fact a 'criminal' His OW at the time threatened me with a restraining order after realising I would contact her BH. I said 'go right ahead'

They really are desperate, pathetic creatures that don't like the cold harsh light of day illuminating their grubby affairs.

Stay strong!


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
keptmyword
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is nothing to worry about here. He might as well have taken a child's toy he found in the car to the police. I'm certain they laughed at him.

I agree with stronger08. Based on his actions he appears to be a total puss. He's desperate to use anything as justification or to legitimize his being a shitbag. He doesn't want to - and probably never will - own up to doing something to you that he would never want anyone to do to him. People of this nature are fucking cowards.

Lying is their self-defense mechanism and they will resort to it instantly when they are exposed. It's easy, quick, and the path of least resistance.


I Divorced Her.

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Jada52
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I so wish I had thought of putting an old phone in his vehicle before I left for a week. Mine probably would have found it too though. I would have put the phone on silent so it would not make noise and turn vibrate off


Silly Slut, husbands are for wives - get your own man B*tch!

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