A couple of things to know about me:
1) I have a very hard body to dress. I'm tall and tend towards an apple shape, not because of extra body fat, but because my rib cage is large. Although, any extra weight I do carry, I carry around my middle. The widest part of my frame is just under my bust.
2) I'm most comfortable in jeans and t-shirts. I'm pretty laid back. While I do enjoy looking nice, I'm certainly not taking any fashion risks.
Well, my mom and my sister keep sending me pictures of dresses that I KNOW will not look good on my body. Empire waisted dresses make me look HUGE. Believe me, I've tried. I've told them this. They poo-poo me and tell me that for my shape, I should be in an empire waist. Ok, whatever. I've only been dealing with my body my whole life. And, what's frustrating is that they're passing over beautiful dresses that WOULD work because they "won't work for bluelady". Except that they would.
I know that it isn't my day and in the end, I will wear whatever my sister puts me in. But I do have some pride and I don't want to look the fool. I know her other attendants. They're all quite petite (as is my sister), so I'm already going to stand out due to my height. I told SO the other day that I'm preparing myself to look like the Jolly Pink Giant.
To be honest, I don't really know why this upsets me. It just does.
I know her other attendants. They're all quite petite (as is my sister), so I'm already going to stand out due to my height
I'm dealing with this for a wedding (my brothers) that I'll be in this fall. I'm 5'8", size 6-8, the other girls (bride included) are 5'0" - 5'4" and size 0-2. I've come down from a size 12 since last fall, but the dress she picked out is shorter than anything I own (I'm going to see if the seamstress can let it out any), and she's got the guys we are paired with matched up in reverse height order, so the shortest girl is walking with the tallest guy. The whole situation amuses me to no end, but on some level I do feel like I'll finally be living up to my name here on SI
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Honestly, bridesmaid dresses are just horrid... I think I was a bridesmaid 5 or 6 times and hated spending the money on the dress every time! Please note I got roped into most weddings mainly as an extra body, I wasn't even especially close to most of the brides, and they weren't even family.
Also can't the maid of honor be in a different dress?
http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/bridesmaids/qa/maid-of-honor-etiquette.aspx. Question 7.
Personally I like the idea of the same color of dress but different style. I'd call or meet with them right away and see if you can negotiate a compromise.
I've kind of thought about this all day and I've come to the realization that it's not the dress that's the issue. I might look silly for one day, but it's just one day. The part that's bothering me is the way they're brushing off my recommendations on what looks good on MY body. They're treating me like a child and I don't like it (foot stomp and pout )
Trust me, I've worn everything from a dress with a collar up to my chin, to one dress with a big ass bow across my behind.
Both were dresses that I could "always wear again."
All in the name of "Love you, girl. Have a great wedding day!"
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Because in my situation I didn't know if I was the OW at first or if I was being cheated on. Found I was being cheated on.
Perhaps if you address it like this, go try on dresses at a bridal shop and offer alternatives?
Do some research then present your argument. But, in the end it is her day. Good luck!
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