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Mack9512
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my WH asked me to marry him again. I told him that I would think about it.


"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 408 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
Knowing
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww, how nice. I'd consider a vow renewal at some point, but not until I felt entirely safe and was certain that the work of R was being undertaken.


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


Posts: 698 | Registered: Oct 2012
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi again Mack.

I just replied to your other post...I read that post first because I wanted to see about the "marriage proposal".

I am not familiar with your story, but is your dday recent? Him asking you to marry you following your "bump in the road" seems to be kind-of rug-sweepish to me. Is he looking to woo you into thinking everything is ok?

I am all for R...long happy R's, but it makes me nervous when someone (WS or BS) jumps into the "future" without really healing the past.

(((hugs)))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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Mack9512
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karma,

The proposal came before my spam discovery, just posted about the spam first.

We are not renewing our vows anytime soon. Obviously, since we haven't been in R that long my trust in him needs to grow, a lot before any new vows are taken. We have talked about an informal 're-commitment' ceremony though to solidify our commitment to R.

After the last DDay our R has been going really, really well and at times I wondered it if was going 'too' well as per the title of my other post. I expected bumps in the road and I'm kind of glad it happened. I figure if we can get through this with our love and respect intact we will be ready for the next bump and maybe even some boulders.


"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I figure if we can get through this with our love and respect intact we will be ready for the next bump and maybe even some boulders.

Nice :) I wish you continued success and hopefully you can avoid the boulders, they can be a bitch


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3846 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
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