Topic: Today was my wedding anniversary
Member # 16935
| Posted: 2:30 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Today would have been my 25th wedding anniversary. Oh sure in the back of my mind I knew it was coming up, but up until last week I wasn't aware that it was almost here. I only realized this after I was making an appointment and was staring at the calender.
So, I got up this morning and again had forgotten what day it was/would have been. I went about my business until I was in the bank and writing out a deposit slip.
I thought I would be sad today. I'm not sad. I saw my x over the weekend, the reason why doesn't matter for the sake of this post. Looking at him I felt sorry for him. He looks unhealthy, unhappy and old. He still has his "I'm right and the universe is wrong" attitude. I don't miss that at all. I remember thinking I don't have to put up with all his nonsense anymore, his lies and his broken promises.
I am glad I'm not celebrating another anniversary with this person. The longer I am divorced from him, the more I realize how much better off I am without him in my life.
I am not trying to erase my marriage from this person all together. I have come to the realization that the man I married 25 years ago has been dead for quite a while. Sadly, I have to say he died long before the affair even took place. I don't know what happen to him. THAT is the man I miss, but since it's been so long since I've seen him, the pain has subsided and I've gone on with my life.
For all of you just entering NB and wonder if you will ever be able to look at a wedding anniversary day straight on and not care or even forget it, you're far better off and you WILL be just fine!
Posts: 2041 | Registered: Nov 2007
Member # 20150
| Posted: 2:34 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 37946
| Posted: 3:42 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Thank you for sharing!
Me (BS)- 36
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
Member # 9280
| Posted: 4:17 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
I want to be able to write your identical post when I reach my 25th wedding anniversary. I think there is a real possibility now! I couldn't say that a year ago. Thank you for the inspiration. FR
[This message edited by fadedrainbow at 4:31 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]
D-Day May 2005
divorced December 2009
Posts: 136 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: UK
Member # 34426
| Posted: 4:23 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Thanks for sharing that..
Glad you've reached your happy place.
Gives me hope! x
Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.
Posts: 623 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
Member # 33226
| Posted: 4:34 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
broken - I had a very similar experience on the day that would have been my 25th anniversary, back in January.
Sounds like this was another mile marker on your healing journey. And you breezed past it without much trouble at all. Well done, you.
You can call me NIK
"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana
Posts: 25716 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 18281
| Posted: 4:51 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Love stinks yeah yeah(J. Geils)
Posts: 5866 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: tulsa
|Grace and Flowers|
Member # 34431
| Posted: 5:28 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
I actually did have my 25th anniversary last summer....we were still legally married at the time.
And, surprisingly, I had a similar experience to you. I was fine. It was an eerie day....I guess because we were still legally married, even though we hadn't lived together or seen each other in months.
But it passed quietly, and I did not have the breakdown I thought I would! I think that was the real start of me realizing it all really was going to be ok.
Thanks for posting this!
I'm Happy, not Sad!
Posts: 1174 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
Member # 21590
| Posted: 10:00 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013|
It is bittersweet. I can feel the strength in your post. I think you are going to be more than ok. Holidays and landmark dates trigger me. As well. Here is to new beginnings......YOUR fresh start.......
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time......
Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southeastern US
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