Hey man. Sorry that you are having to endure this on top of everything you got already.
I may just be cynical, but my gut is screaming at the explanation she gave. You know her better than me, do you believe she is being honest about this ?
Is she trying to convince you or herself ?
Think on it and ask her. She has the ownership of proving that it was what she said it was. Her words don't match her actions in this case.
You have every right to be concerned. The explanation seemed to come after she saw your reaction. Back tracking in a misguided attempt to protect you from the truth.
I may be wrong, but that is how it reads to me.Me-35 her-35
DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.