Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
See a lawyer ASAP and find out what is the best way to get away from him. Document EVERYTHING.
I agree that you should cut off contact with him as much as possible. Treat him like the malignant growth that he is and remove him from your life immediately! Communicate about finances and kid stuff only non-verbally. He's already acting like a giant ass so who cares if he becomes a pissed off giant ass.
-the friday BEFORE I left him, he got mad at his daughter's mom, started yelling awful things at her that "his gf makes 75k a year" (I sure dont make that much, hmm..) and he was going to get 90% custody, then OW grabbed the phone and went off on her.
- Right after I broke up with him he changed his fb status to "In a domestic partnership" w OW. A few days later they were "engaged". XWBF said it was a JOKE. That "they" thought it was funny. Huh?
- He continues to post stuff with <3<3<3 to her on fb. He should be ashamed!
I don't know if its a coping thing, trying to make it funny, or what but its immature and obnoxious and a horrible example. (((Hugs)))
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
Please be careful. Situations like this can turn violent. I know when STBX and I were still living in the same house, it got really ugly. We never fought viciously like we did after I discovered the A. I really started to be afraid that we would be violent with each other. Him moving out was the best thing for everyone.
Dear lord, what an asshole.
Don't play his game. If a car appears in your drive again, call the cops. Don't contact him in any way for any reason. If he begins another game, again, call the cops.
In regards to child care, I wouldn't want him around my kids. Document everything he does and show it to a judge if he pushes for visitation. If a babysitter acted the way he does, I'm sure you would fire the sitter. Do you have a relative that can babysit? Perhaps you could get a roommate who can babysit in exchange for room and board, as long as she buys her own food & etc.
Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M
Is there anyone you can out him to?
[This message edited by Holly-Isis at 6:06 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)]
❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣
If he loved you, he would treat you like a human being and he would not try to hurt u OR ur child. Hell, he wouldn't think its a game.
I have to agree with the above quote.
I can understand your dilemma as to where to live. I think I would want to move back home, if I were in your shoes. You may not make as much money there, but the housing would be cheaper, so that would go a long way in making up for it. Having family near you means everything at a time like this. I know from experience. Also, when I moved back home, it was very freeing, like starting my life over. I was able to put him in my past and begin anew.
I am so sorry you are going through this. But you are being played and abused. You need to get out of there ASAP. Care for yourself and your child. Save EVERY text/email/etc. that he is sending you. Try to find an attorney in your area who specializes in this area. If you have any difficulty paying (not sure if you do or not, so I'm just throwing this out there just in case), many attorney's will represent you on a sliding scale. The #1 priority in your life should be you and your child(ren). This guy is seriously *BROKEN*, and does not need to be exposed to you or your children.
I know the pain you must be feeling, but try to find that momma strength inside you to persevere and be strong for you and your family. You will come out of this MUCH better, happier and healthier. Just keep fighting and being strong.