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So add one more bitch to the list of EA's or PA's. Yay me.

Come to find out, there is someone here in my new hometown (that recently moved here from our former town) that XPOS needs to meet up with when he comes to town to *visit* the children. Granted, it is no longer my business *who* he has his liaisons with, however, this was someone I had a very uneasy feeling about that was dismissed very rapidly, and since there were so many others to keep up with, well, she feel through the cracks (pun intended).

When he is in town, he is trying to masquerade around here like some poor pitiful sorrowful POS, all the while he claims to not want them overnight (only while in town... he can handle overnight vacay's) so that they can have time to readjust to him being around, when in reality he is meeting up with another whore. Seriously??? Seriously!!! Douchedick, keep your sluts on your turf and actually visit your children during their time. You have been given the chance to step up and be a real parent, do it. Or don't. But, leave your whores where they belong, at your fucking house, in your fucking town. Let my town be sacred to me.

Thankfully, he isn't trying to introduce them like so many others do. (yet) Unfortunately, it is because my daughter was so troubled by reading their correspondence that I even know about this.

FTG. FTA. (Fuck.Them.All)

OHMYGOSH!!!! Why do these idiots do this to their own children?????????

((((((Charlie and DD))))))))

No words... just hugs.

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Thank you both for the hugs and support, I was so livid last night (still am, but I can see straight today!!).

I really need some momma wisdom today, please pray for me to have the right words and *reparenting* here, I want her to know that home is a safe place to vent about anything she wants with no pressure from me. (SI is my safe place to vent and F-bomb )

I am thankful she will talk to me about these things, and I am wanting more than anything to respect her dignity and help her find peace. I am also very, very, very thankful that he doesn't insist on overnights, always have been, but what gets me angry is the false front that he puts on (i.e., he says he's thinking of their stability when in reality he just wants to use his time here in town and the projected image of great dad to hide his continued SA lifestyle). If he wants to be a man whore, he should just go be one in his own town, on his own time~

If he wants to be a man whore, he should just go be one in his own town, on his own time~

Ah, but where is the fun, danger, and excitment in that?

I find with kids that open ended questions are always best. In my case, when Teslet says that daddy was sleeping alot or had to work all the time, I simply ask how that makes him feel. Asking how they feel or what they think about a given situation lets them know that their thoughts are on safe ground.

I hate this for you.

((((Charlie and kiddos))))

Thank you, tesla! I really appreciate the encouragement and direction on asking open ended questions, I will definitely make that a habit. At this point, she has decided that she doesn't want to talk to him or be around him for the short term, she wants distance and space to sort through it all. Thankfully, he got his fix and is busy, so is not pressuring for anything more at this time.

One other concern I have that I just realized, is the presence of the gf. I know what she looks like, so I feel like I will be constantly looking over my shoulder for her. One of his last OW became a bit of a stalker before I left, and the kids and I ended up discontinuing some of their activities bc of it. I am sick of looking over my shoulder and I am sick of sleeping with one eye open. I am not sure how to handle this for myself as well, I don't want to be stupid or naive, but I don't want to be controlled or bullied.