Mysticpenguin (excellent username) haha thanks! (:
it's the third point I think the most.
For me too. That was really the biggie for me when I was asking myself if I wanted to ask for total access to everything or not.
I don't mean invading her privacy as such- more her friends- I'll tell you an example- I did not need to know her mate's smear test hurt!! Know what I mean?! I read that and thought GOD IF HER MATE KNEW I'D JUST READ THAT!!!!! She'd be mortified!!
Welp that's it no more texting about smears to my friends! Phone call convos only! In reality though, it seems like it's not unusual at all for husbands/wives/boyfriends/girlfriends/etc to be checking each other's phones, social media messages, and so on -- even if there's been no betrayal of trust. So don't feel too bad! As the media / employer handbooks / etc are always reminding us, we should all know that no text message or e-mail or Facebook message we send is actually private.