[This message edited by MandoBando at 10:02 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)]
I am also 6 months in and have had the worst two weeks. It seems if we have great plans and keep busy I am ok. But Monday mornings are the worst. Back to work, back to day to day, back to remembering how my WH managed to have an affair hooking up during the work day hours while I was oblivious.
We had MC yesterday and she thinks I need to spend more time on my own healing, so I can stop obsessing about the A. I think I am in the anger stage and just want to yell at H all the time about what a Selfish Asshole he was.
After a couple glasses of wine, I can be really nasty to him, not that it's planned, it just all comes pouring out. It is really hurting our R.
Today I am better. I have survived 6 months, which on some days felt impossible.
I will survive this crisis/tsumani.
So I guess my advice is to celebrate surviving the first 6 months.
In short, it's normal. I know it is distressing, but it will likely continue like this for you for some time.
I liken it to your reptile brain protecting you. It won't let you get to far toward happy without yanking you back. In time, and with consistent healing, it will settle down.
But DO keep in mind all of the progress you are making.
I find I am that much stronger as an individual and as a couple we seem to reach a new level of R following a down period. I also read quite a while ago that 6 months was a hard time so for those of you at this stage, I am sorry. Sadly seems you fit that bill. It will get better.
Guess I can report back in June and take my own advice.