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Tred
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Janet)))

I too am sorry for your loss.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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JanetS
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks DS. I think I'm feeling it more right now than the day of??? Maybe I was in a bit of shock, I don't know. Now I sense her absence.

In the almost 13 years she was with us she never growled, even once. Happy and sweet-natured...how lucky we were to have her in our lives.


Posts: 2539 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((JanetS))))

I'm sorry for your loss. Sometimes the hardest choices to make are indeed the right ones.

I went through that 8 months ago with my jack Russell. So difficult because he was just shy of 6 years old. Kidney failure. He laid in my lap as they gave him the medicine to put him to sleep. I got to stay with him as long as I wanted. I had him cremated and and they made a paw print. He sits on the mantle so he is here with us everyday.


Updated 2013:
BS-me 40
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1373 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
JanetS
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While I was responding to DS I received new condolences. Thank you all. (I never thought of a paw print). I'm thinking of maybe planting a rose bush and having her ashes placed there, then she'll be part of the living plant.

All of us here share the "infidelity issue", but we also share so many other common experiences. And clearly having to lose a loved pet is another common thread. I feel for all of those who've been through this sadness. Pets really are part of our families.

[This message edited by JanetS at 11:28 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)]


Posts: 2539 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Janet)))

I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking to have to make that decision, but you did the most loving thing of all for her. Trust in that.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


Posts: 13646 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Janet)))) I'm so sorry for your loss. What a lucky dog she was to have such a long and love-filled life with you.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, Janet. Hugs.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7115 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

. I'm thinking of maybe planting a rose bush and having her ashes placed there, then she'll be part of the living plant.

That's sounds wonderful.


Updated 2013:
BS-me 40
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1373 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JanetS, I'm so sorry you had to make that final decision for Charlotte, but you should be proud that you helped her to be pain-free and happy on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. She was very lucky to have you as her doggie Mom. I know you must miss her lots, and I hope your sorrow lessens daily. (((Janet)))


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Janet)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am terribly sorry for your loss Janet. I believe you did what was best.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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juliette
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry for your loss Janet. I remember Charlotte. She was a great dog.


Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years


Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.


Posts: 11472 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: ontario
JanetS
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Juliette. You know, she was quite a "fat girl" for most of her adult life. And she went for food as if we did not feed her at all. Once her hind legs started having problems we put her on a Prescription weight control. We got her to a nice perfect weight which she held for a couple of years. Then we put her on Prescription joint development, because of her hips. But for the last few months she was losing weight and looking skinny. Not a good look for her. If somebody will tell me how, I will post her picture.

Posts: 2539 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Charlotte brought so much love and joy and now I know you have a big hole in your heart.

Big hugs.

I read this recently:

People are born needing to learn how to live a good life. Dogs already know how, so they don't have to stay around so long.

I'm tearing up just thinking about how hard it was for you to lose Charlotte but I think it is the greatest love of all to let her go on to the Rainbow Bridge.


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

Posts: 411 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just wanted to add...

While I was growing up, my Mother always said, after a beloved dog would die that she did not want another because losing them was so hard.

Every time, a few weeks later, my Dad would show up with a new pup.

And Mom would fall in love again. (With both Dad and the new pup.)


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

Posts: 411 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

(((huge hugs)))


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Janet and Charlotte)))

I have thought about you both a few times sinc your orginal post in April.
I am glad that you were able to have a bit more time with her.

It is soo hard when they pass. I am actually crying right now. I lost 2 dogs, and my cat last year between Feb, and Dec (they all had long good lives). It is sooo hard. A Rose for her would be wonderful. If you do some research I'm betting there is even one out there called the Charlotte.

((((and peace))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7790 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
JanetS
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Continued thanks for all your wonderful condolences.

I won't get another dog. Charlotte was for the kids...even though, in the end, she was really MY dog. But I want the freedom to travel (husband lives/works out of country).

If I wanted a new dog my son's dog just had 8 babies. They asked, I said "no, but thanks".


Posts: 2539 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada
soverybetrayed
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Janet, I am so sorry for what you are going through and I know how much it hurts even though we know it is the right thing to do. It is because we love them so much that we make the tough decision to let them go across the Bridge. My heart goes out to you and your family. Just know that you did the right thing for your sweet baby.


Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....

Posts: 1201 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Texas
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Janet)))

I am sorry for your loss and glad you have the support of your son.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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