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User Topic: talk me down
Jeyana
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its lunch time, I'm sitting in my car, and OW1 is but 3 cars away from me..sitting there..doing nothing, she has drove off once, and then came back to the exact sopt again, there are plenty other spots. This is the MOW who continues to lie to her husband that anything ever happened. I'm shaking, I'm playing senarios, she should be very afraid of me...wtf is she thinking?

Posts: 121 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: oregon
Extirpated
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you're going through this - she is trying to get under your skin. As hard as is it, stand your ground and don't let her see you sweat!


BS - 37 (me)
WH - 37
Children - 3 (aged 11-8)
Married 14 years, together 17 years
TT - 1/27/13, Full DDay 2/11/13
Working towards R
OW - two faced, lying, cheating, manipulating next door neighbor who pretended to be my friend

Posts: 21 | Registered: Mar 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If we were in General I feel I could be a lot more help in talking you down, Jeyana.

I am not quite sure of your whole situation, though. Has the OW1's BH been informed and he just chooses to not believe?

I see you are in the Reconciliation forum so I will assume you are reconciling? Did your WH write OW1 a NC letter?

She realizes she is irrelevant now so is doing anything and everything to try to be relevant. Also, the strategy of the OW in our situation was to try to continue to hurt me and be a thorn in my side so I would finally give up on FWH and leave him. OW thought it would be able to swoop in and collect its prize!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9539 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
dameia
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't confront her!!!

If you really feel the need to do something, give her a big smile and a wave. It will mess with her mind.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


Posts: 1114 | Registered: Jul 2012
MandoBando
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A big grin and a wink!! Actually, just ignore. It made OW#3 bonkers when I just ignored her when we had a surprise run in. She thought I was stalking her! Lolololol!


Me: BS
Him: WS (longroadahead22)
DDay #1: 10/23/12
DDay #2: 11/7/12
DDay #3: 2/9/13
Kids: 2 boys
R, trying our best

Posts: 166 | Registered: Oct 2012
Jeyana
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Her BH is a friend of mine, I did tell him, she does nothing but deny. She is the only person in this mess still denying. Her BH is just going through the motions for his kids before he makes a move.

Posts: 121 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: oregon
Jeyana
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Cool  Posted: 5:01 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I made it through it without having a psycho moment, had to let her BH know what I found out yesterday though, his wife's sister and a family friend new about all of it. BH later came to me and told me that he left his phone at home and she had gone through it and she saw a couple texts between us. Him asking the old phone number of my Wexfiance to crosscheck bills. He said that she is saying he is evil etc etc...up to no good..blah blah. No wonder she was just sitting there. Wonder if she was realy going to try to say something to me. Seems like projection. She must be going crazy with the what
if's. Her BH is a stand up guy who has ridgid boundaries. Extremely careful of crossing lines. I am the same way.

Posts: 121 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: oregon
Jeyana
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Cool  Posted: 5:01 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I made it through it without having a psycho moment, had to let her BH know what I found out yesterday though, his wife's sister and a family friend new about all of it. BH later came to me and told me that he left his phone at home and she had gone through it and she saw a couple texts between us. Him asking the old phone number of my Wexfiance to crosscheck bills. He said that she is saying he is evil etc etc...up to no good..blah blah. No wonder she was just sitting there. Wonder if she was realy going to try to say something to me. Seems like projection. She must be going crazy with the what
if's. Her BH is a stand up guy who has ridgid boundaries. Extremely careful of crossing lines. I am the same way.

Posts: 121 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: oregon
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe he told his WW that he was having an A with you to get even?


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 933 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
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