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newlysingle (original poster member #38735) posted at 9:22 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
I had been doing really well the past couple of days. STBX even watched the kids for me last night so I could go out with friends and we were civil. Today, I texted him about some windows that I'm having replaced in the house and let him know the cost, etc. as he is going to pay for half. He acknowledged, said he'd pay it, etc.
About 20 minutes later I get this lovey dovey text from him. Basically, saying how much he loved me, missed me, etc. However, I knew it wasn't for me. I quickly got another text that said "Oops, wrong person". Not that I want lovey text messages from him or anything, but it hurt like none other. It took the wind out of me. I just sat in the Target parking lot sobbing.
I responded with at "Thanks a lot asshole". Then he said he was sorry. Whatever. How can these assholes even sleep at night? How can he live with doing such a horrible thing to his family? 
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
nolight ( member #32785) posted at 9:38 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
I've had the same thing happen to me saying something about being the love of his life and only thing keeping him going 
almost eight years ago and it still pisses me off to think of! Thank GOODNESS he is not my problem anymore!!
Believe me one day you will realise the exact same thing.
We make our own fortunes and call them fate, and what better excuse to choose a path then to insist it's our destiny.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 10:52 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
Ugh, what a thoughtless piece of shit.
((((newlysingle))))
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
Ouch. I'm so sorry.
{{{{hugs}}}}
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 10:56 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
Oh God that was a punch in the gut.
I don't get it, I don't understand how they can move on so quickly and not care about the total destruction they leave in their wake.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
GreatRoleModel ( member #36809) posted at 11:07 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
I am so sorry that sucks! Reminded me of the time just after he moved and was on the phone with me and said goodbye, "Love you" slipped out of his mouth. Knew that wasn't for me since he hadn't used those words in years to me. You deserve so much better and it will come to you.
BS (me)
XNPDWS
It takes a village to deal with the village idiot!
“If we couldn't laugh we would all go insane.”
― Robert Frost
disillusioned12 ( member #37542) posted at 11:18 PM on Wednesday, April 24th, 2013
BS (Me)
WS (H)
Married 5 yrs; Together 10 yrs
D-Day 11/14/12
EA(PA?)
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold
wontdefineme ( member #31421) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
Think of it like the new car smell. Some people can drive that old faithful car for years and mourn when it has to be replaced. While other people trade cars every couple of years. Need the new car smell to make them feel good.
Contentment in life brings much happiness. Running after happiness only makes you unfulfilled.
MichelleRenee ( member #38880) posted at 2:10 AM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
I know how you feel. The very week after I discovered my husband's OW I saw a pic of them on Facebook looking so happy. Under the pic he had captioned it "isn't she gorgeous". There was a 2nd pic of a close up of them holding hands. I felt so sick.
Me - 37
lying cheating a-hole - 36
kids - 17,12,10
D-day 3/25/2013
Filed for divorce 3/26/2013
BlueWoman ( member #36849) posted at 3:32 AM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
Yuck. So very sorry! ((newlysingle))
Me: BS, 37
Many DDs over the last half of the marriage. He probably cheated all along.
Divorce is underway.
honesttoafault ( member #27105) posted at 4:24 AM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
I'm so sorry. But keep in mind that a lot of WS's need someone to get over their wife!! They can't do it on their on and usually drop those women when their purpose is done.
newlysingle (original poster member #38735) posted at 5:23 AM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
Thanks everyone. What would I do without this site. It's so nice to know I'm not alone! I've been doing okay this evening and I take that as a small step forward in my recovery. If this had happened a month ago, it would have crushed me for days. Now it was just hours.
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
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