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User Topic: Stbxh is interested in SI, any advice?
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd find another site to direct him to. It'll throw him off your scent if he has an ulterior motive, and if he is genuine, he can glean wisdom elsewhere.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a WS, this site changed my life. When I started reading here, I really started to "get it." Even if it did not save the marriage- it saved me.

As a result of the growth I experienced here, my STBXBS and I are very close and have a very positive relationship.

As long as they are here for themselves, I don't think it can be bad. Either they will start to "get it" and make positive changes, or they will be offended by the reality they are shown and run with their tail between their legs.

Don't look at how far you have to go, but how far you have come

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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Soooo not a good idea. if you want to hear my tale, pm me

Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

quite a few people actually censor themselves when they post in fear that their stbx is lurking

Yep! This was/is me. I can tell you horror stories about directing others to this site. Unfortunately, I know the whole staff here will concur about my sorry situations regarding this.

Funny that this thread would come up now because I just discovered that stbxWW is still tracking me here. I went to her new apartment today to set up her cable TV & internet because she's such a noob and couldn't do it. I had to get into her browser to set up her router and guess what I see as the first link in her history? Yep! SI was staring me right in the face. I asked her about it (I don't know why) and of course she lied to me again and said she hadn't been on SI for six months. Total bullsh!t because I know she did a factory reset on her laptop after she moved out to remove *something I had on there.

That's a really long way around advising you NOT to do this. It only works for a truly remorseful wayward which ours are not!

[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 6:59 PM, April 25th (Thursday)]

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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a very bad experience with my husband (and his OW) on SI. I am in the camp that thinks it wise to keep it to yourself.

If he's motivated, it's not a hard site to find. And while he looks for it, he might find other useful information for his healing.

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WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
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