quite a few people actually censor themselves when they post in fear that their stbx is lurking
Yep! This was/is me. I can tell you horror stories about directing others to this site. Unfortunately, I know the whole staff here will concur about my sorry situations regarding this.
Funny that this thread would come up now because I just discovered that stbxWW is still tracking me here. I went to her new apartment today to set up her cable TV & internet because she's such a noob and couldn't do it. I had to get into her browser to set up her router and guess what I see as the first link in her history? Yep! SI was staring me right in the face. I asked her about it (I don't know why) and of course she lied to me again and said she hadn't been on SI for six months. Total bullsh!t because I know she did a factory reset on her laptop after she moved out to remove *something I had on there.
That's a really long way around advising you NOT to do this. It only works for a truly remorseful wayward which ours are not!