Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: conflictedcolleg (44943)

Just Found Out Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Is he messing with my head?
confused615
♀ Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you seriously considered leaving and going back to your home,to stay with family until you can get on your feet? I know your WH is his father,but this man is a monster. He is cruel and abusive. He is toxic. An absent father is better than a shitty father(I had both growing up).


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7419 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
HelpMe123
♀ Member
Member # 39044
Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have and am seriously considering going back home but let me give some examples of what's waiting for me back there....my brother was just put on house arrest for sleeping with a 17 ur old, he's 33 and he's residing with my mother, he is not to be alone with anyone under 18, my uncle is in jail for molesting his children (everyone has disowned him), my other brother lives in housing projects that had a drive by shooting and a domestic abuse incident where a man slashed his GF's throat in the middle of the day. Add that to the no job there no economy, poor schools....I hope that helps put into perspective why I'm scared of the choice I make for my kids :(


Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2013
confused615
♀ Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does. Im sorry.

(((((HelpMe))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7419 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
hopefulmother
♀ Member
Member # 38790
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes...thanks! Then I say, don't let him bully you into leaving. Stay in a good area for your son. But, stay clear of the ex. I would also start logging on a calendar or journal all the times he attempts to contact you or harass you.


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 933 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
Safeguard
♀ Member
Member # 38899
Default  Posted: 1:44 AM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Yeah that puts a lot of things in perspective. Stand your ground then, but get tough with this sob.

His history reads like a nightmare, unless he's been "In the Fog" his whole adult life, this is not fog, it's who he IS.


"since your actions don't match your words, excuse me while I stop believing you."

Posts: 143 | Registered: Apr 2013
Topic Posts: 25
Pages: 1 · 2

Return to Forum: Just Found Out Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.