[This message edited by Lastnfinalchance at 1:08 PM, April 26th (Friday)]
Please remember that someone who has low, low self esteem usually has an affair with someone who they believe is beneath them to build themselves up. In JFO there is a thread that talks specifically about this aspect of the cheaters handbook. They are flawed and they most always "affair down".
Men who turn to porn and sexting are not fulfilled in their own lives and use it as others use food, alcohol, etcm to self medicate emotionally.
He could be a SA? He could be bored with his life. I wouldn't rule these things out from what you describe.
Sending you hugs.
Can you not see it? If you look hot and sexy and well presented then HE looks ( so on the inside FEELS) better.
The OW can be fat, thin, short, tall, busty, lat chested etc etc etc etc ad nauseum... But she strokes his ego and that too makes him feel better inside.
Please people- it's NOT about external looks. It's about internal stuff---- THE WS'S internal brokenness