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User Topic: Who's not ready to date? A show of hands please?
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Raising my hand!

I am just going to live my life. If a man pops into it, great. I'm good either way

exactly that :)


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1335 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah.

I need to do the "if the right person falls in my lap" thing. Figuratively speaking of course, I'm not just attracted to clumsy guys.

OLD is the pits. And apparently I couldn't pick out a good guy if I had a gun to my head.


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Figuratively speaking of course, I'm not just attracted to clumsy guys.

Baggage Reclaim always talks about dating away from your type if your type hasn't really been working out for you in the past. Maybe Mr. Clumsy is exactly who you need


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3362 | Registered: Dec 2011
Zamas
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not even remotely! It's so funny thought because that's always everyone's first reaction, " oh you're going to meet a great guy and you'll forget all about WS!"

No thanks. Silly me, I thought he WAS the great guy.


Me- SAHM 30yo BS
Him- 32yo WS
Three kids, 9, 7, 10mo

Their baby was born in Sept and they are happily househunting. He finally left 4/03.


Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: New Jersey
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

phmh - so I should be on the lookout for stupid guys with no sense of humor.

That ought to be easy.


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

Posts: 870 | Registered: Feb 2006
kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmm, I think I might be ready to date but I'm too chicken to actually do something about it, so that really means I'm not ready to date, right?

I have been really noticing men lately (not in a creepy stalker way) so maybe it's not too far off.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5138 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
thisisterrible
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dating doesn't sound appealling to me at all.

For one thing, unless someone hits on me at the grocery store while I'm trying to keep my two kids from smacking each other with whatever they pick up off the shelves, I'm not goint to meet anyone because I don't go anywhere. I mean, anywhere.

Secondly, I'd have tons of guilt about giving up time with my kids to date. I don't want to miss out on even one bedtime to go out with some guy that may only last a date or two.

But, although I don't want to 'date', I'd like to be in a relationship. I loved the security and comfortableness of being married and miss it.

So basically what I need is to figure out how I can be in a nice comfortable relationship with someone who won't mind if I wear my sweatpants...without having to date him at all first.

Guess I just better get used to being single forever.

[This message edited by thisisterrible at 10:19 PM, April 28th (Sunday)]


Me:BS Him:WH Two young kids
Married 12yrs - together 20
A started 2/09 - S 7/09 - he filed for D 12/09
I wanted to R and he didn't. He never stopped seeing the MOW, who filed for D 11/09. They've since broke up...for now.

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traveldad
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Cool  Posted: 11:27 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been ready for a long time. The trouble is my children aren't ready for me to be serious with anyone and everyone I've dated so far has been ready to talk serious relationship by the second date.


DDay January 2010
Divorced July 2010...broke up 2 families
Contented single dad of 2 grown sons and two daughters.
XW talks to kids about once a year

Posts: 54 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Southwest
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me Me Me!!! I'm enjoying my children and chillin!!

I was talking to some guy at the grocery store and I realized,,,,there WILL be a day, but it's not yet.


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2128 | Registered: Jan 2012
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not ready. Still legally married. Don't want to impose my divorce drama on top of a relationship, and I'm not really the type to "date". I need space for me, me, and me right now.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1184 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
npain
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ME!!! Even if the divorce was final, I still would not be bothered because I'm so BUSY!! Where would I fit him in?

Maybe when the kiddies are older and a little more self reliant I'll think about it. in the meantime, I'll enjoy my singleness...


S,beginning D

Posts: 508 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York
capri
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hand is halfway up, I guess?

I have a (male) friend who takes me out to dinner and plays, but we both know it's not lifetime potential.

I have no desire to have anyone moving into my home. I love having my bed to myself (well, make that, I'm grateful the cat allows me to share her bed and not have to have anyone else taking up even more room....)

I go on a few dating sites occasionaly, I've been on a number of dates, and I've enjoyed every one, but find even the men I've really gotten along well with, I'd love to have as friends, not boyfriends. I seem to just really have no interest in having a boyfriend right now. I'm quite happy pursuing my own things and spending time with my kids.

I actually can't even imagine being in love again, and that kind of bothers me, to be unable even to imagine it.

As I chat with one more guy via messages until we both have a free night next week, it makes me wonder if I really should just delete my profiles altogether.

I've been ready for a long time. The trouble is my children aren't ready for me to be serious with anyone and everyone I've dated so far has been ready to talk serious relationship by the second date.

Yikes, wanting a serious relationship on date 2???? My kids also don't like the thought of me dating. They're afraid some other man is going to try to displace their father and Be Dad.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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soverybetrayed
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Default  Posted: 12:52 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its weird but I really don't want to date. I have been separated for 2 years an divorced for almost a year and have no desire to date. I have always been looking for a man when I was single so now I want to spend time alone finding me and enjoying being single. I would rather make some great friends (female and male) than go on a date. I need to be alone and rediscover the me from 13 years ago plus a guy would try to get my fur baby off my bed and that ain't happening! She was her first and she loves me more


Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....

Posts: 1207 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Texas
gma56
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Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not right now. I guess I'm "ready" but I'm not. Make any sense ? There's only one I wouldn't say no to right now but that won't happen so living and exploring the new life I have found.

Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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