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User Topic: SI no longer safe?
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most of you have names that wouldn't much identify you but when I first started here I created my user name without thinking...the beginning of my name is actually my nickname and the end is actually the 3 letters of my last he did find me in the very beginning and printed some things that I wrote...but none of it was lies so he looked at me and said wow I am sorry (short lived) but I don't believe he does anymore and at this point I don't care...but if it can harm you in anyway I would be careful and I am sorry!!!!

3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1096 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My user name will not identify me at all, however if the WS was to read my first post he would know it was me. Don't really care tho. He is the one cheating and being a jerk, not me.

Silly Slut, husbands are for wives - get your own man B*tch!

Posts: 114 | Registered: Apr 2013
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have thought about this too. I try to post generically so that there is not too much identifying information. I think how many posts there are here in a day, how many forums, and it could take someone hours, days, weeks of reading to figure out who we are.

A lot of the WS's read the same playbook, though, so many of the stories sound the same, another reason it may be difficult to figure out who is who.

Also, being a year out from D-day helps too; I would imagine if you were close to D-day and actively posting frequently, it might be easier to figure out.

BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The first day I joined I came across a post somewhere that warned against telling WW about this site. The author kept referring to it as a safe place. It stood out to me because I was just about to ask her to visit the site because I was so blown away to find so many BS who articulated what I felt better than I could at the time.

As it stands now, I don't really care if she reads what I write. She screwed up, not me. But I think it makes my life easier since she already feels I'm to blame for the A. This would just feed into the "You don't understand why I did it" tripe.

D-Day: January 2013
Me, BH: 31
Her, WW: 31
Married 10 years
Kids: Daughter, 3
Divorced: Sep 2013

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