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User Topic: You know when I miss having a husband?
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Finding it hard as well to miss anything. Hired a cleaning guy and crew, a yard guy and crew for the hard stuff and a handyman for all the little things that need to be fixed.

As my friend said: "you are paying, but now you are actually getting something in return."


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1253 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe I miss having an adult male in the house for heavy lifting, but even then, we were pretty evenly matched. It's more that I sometimes need a second person to help (like when putting a window AC unit in). Fortunately, I have strong brothers who are willing to come out a couple times a year to help me if I feed them.

STBX couldn't do anything in terms of fixing or other house-related chores any better than I could. I can call the fix-it guys and drop the car at the shop as competently as he can!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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lux444
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One word...never


Cheat On A Good Woman and Karma Will Make Sure You End Up With The Bitch You Deserve!

Posts: 116 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Never Never Land
npain
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I miss having a husband.

Just not the husband I had.


S,beginning D

Posts: 508 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I miss having someone with whom I can share really great news, in detail.

Of course, I didn't have that for most of my marriage since he'd always put me down and minimize anything good compared to him, but that is one thing I look forward to in my next relationship.

Until then, I just journal.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3351 | Registered: Dec 2011
iseetriple
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..not so much a husband as just another set of hands...when I need to zip up the back of my dress. Nothing worse than when the kids are gone, I am in a rush and I can't get the zipper past my bra-line (damn, should have stuck with yoga!)
I end up having to run (half naked) across the street to my widowed neighbor and hope she is home to finish dressing me.


Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away.

Posts: 1223 | Registered: Feb 2005
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

... every stupid day. I'll get over it, I suppose.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 747 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm thinking.

If I'd had a good one, I'm sure I would have a different answer.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15393 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am in the box-lifting, jar-opening camp. I am in an apartment instead of a rental house purposely so I don't have to worry about lawns.

I also miss a husband (although not necessarily *my* husband) when DS6 loses his shit. He is over 4 feet tall and 50 lbs.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 737 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If mine had acted like a husband maybe I would have missed having one. I am told though, there are plenty of good men out there, so maybe I will be lucky enough to find a good man so I know what I was missing.

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