"Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim." Nora Ephron
I wouldn't like it myself. But I imagine that she could have felt what she thought was real love. I would worry that she was not 100% yours.
My fWH risked everything for a W he didn't respect or love and kept going to the point that he barely liked her, yet it took my catching him to stop and it went on for years. Is that better?
Betrayeds just can't understand waywards.
Is she committed to R and to doing the work to heal you, herself and the relationship? It is not enough for her to just say she loves you more. What are her actions saying?
I'm so sorry you're hurting. ((( ))) & strength
BS:45 WH:47 needhelp123
8yr EA&PA w/MCOW emp/frmr emp
19y M * 25y T, 2 teens
DDay 12/31/12*5w TT
Sick tired sad
I don't know, is it possible it was "real" love, rather than infatuation, based on fantasy and bullshit, and escape, like I want to believe?
NBG, no it's not "real" love. Unfortunately she is still inside her fantasy bubble. While there, the A holds excitement as well as the "warm fuzzies" for a WS. Many also do misinterpret the attention they receive as love. Yes, it's all bullshit, but until that bubble is poked and popped, she'll remain in that fog.
Thing is... you can't do it for her. *She* has to get to the point where she realizes it was nothing more than a fantasy on her own. Then and only then will you see the fog lift allowing you a chance to truly R.
Here's wishing you good luck and success as you both move through this shitty mess.
[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 10:13 PM, April 29th (Monday)]