(((Jojosam)))

I think a better idea is to go to the gym, put a photo of your WS (or the other bXXX) on a punching bag and belt the crap out of it. And while you are hitting the bag yell at it what you really are feeling. You can even use a base ball bat on the bag (not referring to the OP or your WS).

I found this very helpful.

Was the woman you had an RA with married?

If so, do you think he might be here wishing that misery on you?

Maybe the OM was inflicting an RA on his wife and you were just collateral damage to him.

No, the woman that I had a RA with was not married, she was very single and very available. We had an online friendship that crossed boundaries into something that was much more, we never met IRL though we were both very tempted to numerous times.
No the OM from my WW was not having a RA, in fact none of the OM from my WW past were having a RA, OM#1 was former best friend of mine, OM#2 was a coworker of hers that actually fell in love with her and wanted to marry her and build a life together, OM#3 another coworker is a dirtbag that has these sorts of flings with coworkers all of the time.

[This message edited by Darkonius at 1:43 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)]