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User Topic: Retaliation?
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used to be obsessed with the thought. It subsides, I promise. Try to remember your core in all of this. Hang on to that.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While a revenge affair may sound like a good idea, or you are doing is letting your WS off the hook. While you keep the straight road, you will always have the the upper hand. Even if if it doesn't feel like it.

I think a better idea is to go to the gym, put a photo of your WS (or the other bXXX) on a punching bag and belt the crap out of it. And while you are hitting the bag yell at it what you really are feeling. You can even use a base ball bat on the bag (not referring to the OP or your WS).

I found this very helpful.

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Default  Posted: 3:06 AM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The gym is exactly where I have been. Probably the best revenge will be looking better than ever!!

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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Was the woman you had an RA with married?

If so, do you think he might be here wishing that misery on you?

Maybe the OM was inflicting an RA on his wife and you were just collateral damage to him.

No, the woman that I had a RA with was not married, she was very single and very available. We had an online friendship that crossed boundaries into something that was much more, we never met IRL though we were both very tempted to numerous times.
No the OM from my WW was not having a RA, in fact none of the OM from my WW past were having a RA, OM#1 was former best friend of mine, OM#2 was a coworker of hers that actually fell in love with her and wanted to marry her and build a life together, OM#3 another coworker is a dirtbag that has these sorts of flings with coworkers all of the time.

[This message edited by Darkonius at 1:43 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)]

Me:BH/Madhatter 39
Her: WS 42
DDay#1: 1995
DDay#2: 1999
Status: Working towards R

You never truly know what Shit creek looks like until you find yourself sitting in the middle of it without a paddle.

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