Was the woman you had an RA with married?
If so, do you think he might be here wishing that misery on you?
Maybe the OM was inflicting an RA on his wife and you were just collateral damage to him.
No, the woman that I had a RA with was not married, she was very single and very available. We had an online friendship that crossed boundaries into something that was much more, we never met IRL though we were both very tempted to numerous times.
No the OM from my WW was not having a RA, in fact none of the OM from my WW past were having a RA, OM#1 was former best friend of mine, OM#2 was a coworker of hers that actually fell in love with her and wanted to marry her and build a life together, OM#3 another coworker is a dirtbag that has these sorts of flings with coworkers all of the time.
Her: WS 42
Status: Working towards R
You never truly know what Shit creek looks like until you find yourself sitting in the middle of it without a paddle.