You did nothing wrong feel proud about your actions.
sorry to sound cynical Calkid, but it seems like she is continuing to manipulate you. Why did she change the passwords? For heavens sake, don't pull her on your lap and talk to her like a little girl again. She knows what she's doing. And if we are all wrong, at the very least she is minimizing. still no excuse for changing the passwords, (on the fake FB account).
[This message edited by confused615 at 11:26 AM, May 17th (Friday)]
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Then I call her and say guess what baby, I'm coming tomorrow for the weekend and I'll get to see you, the grand baby (which I've hardly seen).
^^^ THIS was a mistake. You should have just went without the phone call.
You want your wife to be honest, faithful and committed so bad that you are failing to see what's right before your eyes.
She is creating secret Facebook accounts, changing passwords on her email accounts, and clearly still hung up on the AP.
You cannot love her out of this. That. Simply. Doesn't. Work.
You must separate her words from her actions. She is saying all the things you want to hear. And because you want this so bad, you remain hooked. But her actions clearly say something entirely different. And because you remain hooked by her words, you are ignoring her actions.
Please. Study the 180. Protect yourself. Visit a lawyer to find out your rights before this gets much worse.
When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
OC born 2001
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)
"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
Endeavor to Persevere
Ok, I lied... I didn't JUST start thinking this.
Cal, dude, you have REALLY got to stop tipping your hand to her. She's playing you like a fiddle, and you keep falling right in tune with it.
Why did you change the password on the gmail and that fake FB account." "Are you serious? Good night Calkid." "So then she starts texting me. "Are you gonna bring this house down with your craziness?" "No" "How are we ever suppsed to move forward? Don't contact me tomrorow. Just let me be."
"I thought we were taking a break to let things cool down? You never give me a chance to do anything for you. I was planning on coming back on Tuesday and surprising you. You are always complaining about me not reciprocating your love but you always beat me to the punch." I tried to say, "why didn't you keep it secret still? I would have been blown away! And, at least I get to see the grand baby and son."
Tuesday? Doubt it. 180 brother. Stop giving her the power. She continues to lis and conceal. She doesn't get it yet.
so your wife is currently involved with another man. The question is - what are you going to do about it. Are you going to let her walk all over you and continue to have sex with another man until she gets bored and finds someone else to have an affair with, knowing this is now your life.
Or are you going to stand up and say "enough". Pack her things, and have divorce papers waiting for her. When she arrived back give them to her. Give her the shock of her lifetime. Show yourself to be a strong man. Respect yourself, and she might just start to respect you too. Maybe she won't, in which case you will start to heal alone, but either way you win.
Your life. Your choice. We cannot convince you to do something you do not want to do. You cannot convince your wife to give up an exciting new sex partner for you. It won't work. Why should she? she is in complete control of you and can have the new partner and the man at home to look after home and the kids. You cannot love her out of it, you cannot respect her out of it. All you can do is rebuild your self respect and take control of your own life.
Your life, your choice. Which life do you want to lead?
[This message edited by LonelyHusband at 12:36 PM, May 17th (Friday)]
Thinking about you ((((Calkid))).
Hope you are doing okay.
I agree with others. She was going to have a booty call. She's lying. Plain and simple. Very simply, do you see charges on the credit card? Probably not, I dare say.
I say change those reservations to some place YOU want to go, and go, or go visit the baby. That's never a bad thing.
I have gone to the garage and duct taped my head tightly so it does not explode off my shoulders.....
FUCK THIS & THAT!!! You are getting led around by your nose in the hopes she will NOT drop you forever....brother....NUKE STRIKE......expose, 180, draw papers, everything......then see where you stand.
This shit she is pulling has MY head exploding....
"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back up"
I get what you all are saying, I do. But you are not emotionally attached to her as I am. You don't know her as I do.
And we can tell you by reading what you say she is telling you that she is lying her ass off to you, softening you up. From what she is telling you, such as telling this OM "no pussy, its calkid's", she is one smooth operator.
You really believe that if she is away and you would find nothing out as far as specifics, that she wouldn't have sex with him?
She is playing you. And the whole mental mind game of telling a guy that the other guy's dick is too small? Ya, how many times have we heard that one. She is hoping you have a big ego and that telling you OM's dick is too small will help.
Do what you think you need to do. We are seeing the bulls**t she is feeding you because we have been there and done that.
But if you think we are wrong, fine. Just at least don't swallow her lies and bulls**t.
Stand up for yourself, show her you are not going to be some wimpering puppy dog, so lovesick that you will seek to believe anything she says out of desperation to keep her.
Don't do that to yourself.